I'm curious to know if it is possible for a man to stop right before ejaculating and be okay.
If, by "okay", you mean the man is not injured, then yes, he is "okay". He can "finish himself" off, or not.
If, by "okay", you mean it will prevent a pregnancy, then no, it will not necessarily.
A man secretes semen prior to the ejaculation. Motile, swimming sperms come out of his urethra prior to ejaculation, so "pulling out" is not a very reliable method of contraception.
While it is, of course, "possible", my own personal opinion is that it is 100% bullshit. In my opinion, it is also faulty thinking along the lines of "oral sex is not sex", and "but I never inhaled", that somehow the sin of adultery is lessened by not ejaculating into the woman.
He wants you to believe he has some morals for not crossing that line. Even if it were true, it wouldn't make things better, but it's horseshit.
Finally divorced Jul/17
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!
My confusion comes from my H saying that although they had intercourse 5-6 times during 9 months he always stopped her and had her get off right before he would ejaculate. He stated that the very first time she told him to go ahead she was on birthcontrol
Not a reliable method of BC - at all. Ask my DD who had a surprise pregnancy while breastfeeding and using this method of "birth control."
Whether he did or didn't ejaculate...IMO, what difference does that make? Is it supposed to make it easier for you to accept he screwed around with someone...because it doesn't.
Good gravy; the lengths WSs go to to minimize.
Is he saying it makes any difference at all - because in my opinion it doesn't. Its deflection around the detail.
The thing that bothers me is you are questioning it as the truth, not the content or whether its ok. So whatever the situation he is describing you want the truth. OK its plausible. If you get off the subject of whether he did or not and focus on the betrayal and how you feel, you might get nearer the truth or what you feel is the truth.
"Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive" - CS Lewis
Not that it matters, he still had sex with another woman.
DDay - June 2014
DD 2008 & 2011
Divorced April 1, 2015