This is sort of an update regarding the fact that my WH finally agreed to Imago therapy.
He has agreed to different therapies before – some he has followed through with, and some he has not. I have had my wedding ring in my bedside table for several months now. I don't know if he has noticed. I did not do it to get a reaction out of him. I did it because there was not one fiber in my being that felt married in any way.
I have been spending every other night away from my home due to caring for elderly parents. Today he let me know that he had made the appointment for the Imago therapy.
So, last night when I returned home, I put my wedding ring back on. I understand that there are no guarantees with this therapy – but I felt that I needed to validate for myself his efforts to make the appointment. (I had refused to make the appointment myself – I have always made other appointments, and he has gone to them "half assed". I told him that he would need to be "all in" and actually make the appointment himself if we were going to go.)
I don't take my ring off and put it on like a revolving door. I just felt totally hypocritical to wear it. Now, not only do I need to recognize the effort it took for him to make the appointment – he hates the very thought therapy – but having it on my finger seems to motivate me to try even harder to do my part to heal.
So, I guess I'm just thinking out loud. Wish us luck, and thanks for listening.
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
