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flayed posted 7/23/2014 11:39 AM

9 months in things are going fairly well in R. Triggered yesterday and I am still floating in a sea of pain. What do you do with the pain of knowing your spouse greatly enjoyed having sex with another???

sisoon posted 7/23/2014 11:57 AM

Gently, I recommend facing it and feeling it in your body. In my experience, that lets the pain go. It's a lot of pain, though, so it may take a number of iterations of feeling and letting go.

Your pain is real. It's part of the experience. But you have to go through it - your body won't let you bypass it.


flayed posted 7/24/2014 00:14 AM

Thank you Sisoon

I am going to let your wise,kind words sink in. I think the practice will be hard. Harder for me than most because I tend to numb myself emotionally. But I will start.

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