I received an email yesterday from the OM. Previously I had sent him a couple emails (months ago), but no response.
To summarize, he said he was respecting my WW request for NC. That the director of the music school my children attend has requested that he lead a large portion of the school and he accepted.
He was letting me know because he wanted to make sure that I knew it was because of the financial reasons and to be closer to his target audience, not for any other reason (like my wife). It was only for the job opportunity.
I thought it was a courtesy, which I appreciated, but it will mean that instead of being 4 hours away, he will be 20 minutes away. And, he will be leading the instruction for my DDs.
Needless to say I am freaking out.
But, on a good note, when I told my wife she completely left the decision on what to do to me. No blameshifting or gaslighting--just a complete and open, "Whatever you think is best I am OK with--really. However much or little or none the girls do with the school is fine--it's up to you."
That response from my wife is so much better than what it used to be, I can hardly express. So, it's bad news and good news at the same time.
There will always be someone waiting in the wings. It's my wife's attitude to me that is paramount, and that attitude has greatly improved.
Additionally, he will now have a boss and an image to uphold, so I have more leverage to make life unpleasant for him should I get a sniff of anything wrong.
The hardest part will be moving my DDs out of their class because we have so much time and energy invested. I will have to see this guy from time to time around now -- no avoiding him.
Just when I thought things were settling down...