Basically it is the theory that two personalities exit, in my case a tightly wound, buttoned up dude that knew he had to clean up his act and do all the right things-good husband, good father, etc. Only dealt with the typical male emotions of anger and rage because of societal norms and upbringing. Had the wild side full of emotions, but kept that tamped down because that was not allowed in the tightly wound world that was expected/required. Never merged the two or learned how to blend and continue to be a productive citizen. Kept things tamped down until choosing to let loose and dove into an affair. Not providing an excuse that allowed the affair because that part was a choice, but rather the why it was close to the surface and came out when chosen/allowed.
Still exploring and looking for the why. Just wondering if anyone has heard of this and any helpful thoughts.
[This message edited by GetEvenInAZ at 7:37 AM, July 24th (Thursday)]
[This message edited by SlowUptake at 8:08 AM, July 24th (Thursday)]
"Do not say a little in many words but a great deal in a few." Pythagoras
There are two kinds of people in the world. Those who can extrapolate from incomplete data.
What you wrote doesn't sound like "why" yet to me. Why didn't you let emotions out, why were you afraid to acknowledge anger, why did you think an A eas acceptible instead of all the healthy things you could have done.
You have started, but you have a lot ahead of ukulele. Keep moving forward.
Now figure out why that was your go-to method to deal with life. Look at your past, your childhood, when you first started to use that.
Separated transitioning to D
The one good take away from the wild child reason was to look for appropriate ways to have challenges and thrills. Not sure if it feeds the wild child beast or not, but the ideas we've come up with sure keep me busy.
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Anybody have any posts/Library info that they think would be a good resource?
