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Topic: Paean to an Admin

krsplat
♀ 43242
Member # 43242

Posted: 7:47 AM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014

This is just a shout out to the hardworking admins, mods and guides who give up their time to make this website a safe space for us all to be, to talk, and to heal. Those who run this site put up with alot of ridiculous crap in order to make sure that there is a protected place here for all parties -- BSs, WSs and APs alike-- to let go of garbage we carry, without fear of being slammed (gentle, corrective 2x4s notwithstanding

). That is not the case on every infidelity website.

I was realizing this morning what "safe haven" SI is for me, and want to make my gratitude public. So Deeply Scared, Meta, MangledHeart, authenticnow, jo2love, wifehad5, Jrazz, LosferWords, Moo and nowiknow23, thanks for being our SI angels.

Me & WH: 48, married 22 years, 4 kids
DDay: 3/5/14, 7 yr LTA plus multiple ONS
Status: Looks like it was a dealbreaker after all

Posts: 473 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Virginia

deena04
♀ 41741
Member # 41741

Posted: 8:00 AM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014

I agree! Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!

Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Figuring it out?!?!

Posts: 1484 | Registered: Dec 2013

MovingUpward
♂ 14866
Member # 14866

Posted: 8:20 AM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014

Thank you krsplat and deena

AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Posts: 53988 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation

solus sto
♀ 30989
Member # 30989

Posted: 8:24 AM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014

This really is a soul- and sanity-saving site. Not to be too alliterative about it

I am grateful for it every day.

BS-me, 53
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 9499 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest

Ascendant
♂ 38303
Member # 38303

Posted: 8:24 AM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014

Woot woot!

Posts: 2874 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: #WindyCity

Deeply Scared
♀ 2
Member # 2

Posted: 9:01 AM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014

Thank you!! That's really nice of you

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

Posts: 201020 | Registered: May 2002

Jrazz
♀ 31349
Member # 31349

Posted: 11:43 AM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014

Thank you - that is so sweet.

I know we all feel lucky to be here and be able to help in this capacity.

(((krsplat)))

"All the wars, all the hatred, all the ignorance in the world come out of being so invested in our opinions. And at bottom, those opinions are merely our efforts to escape the underlying uneasiness of being human. - Pema Chodron

Posts: 20976 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California

itainteasy
♀ 31094
Member # 31094

Posted: 12:08 PM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014

True story!

Thanks guys.

Posts: 3437 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA

sisoon
♂ 31240
Member # 31240

Posted: 1:13 PM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014

I'm always amazed at the loving quality of SI.

I've seen some other infidelity recovery sites, and the quality of the forums doesn't come close to SI. I can't believe their members are any better or worse than SI members are. The big difference between SI and the other sites, IMO, is the moderation and guidance.

DS and MH set SI up based on loving values and guidelines, and 'the staff' uses them to bring out the best in almost all of us.

Thanks, guys.

fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 70 (22 in my head), Married 45+, together since 1965, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
I'm not an exemplar. I share my own experience because it's all I know.

Posts: 11141 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area

Skan
♀ 35812
Member # 35812

Posted: 3:37 PM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014

I'll quintuple that!

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 5561 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California

jo2love
♀ 31528
Member # 31528

Posted: 4:10 PM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014

Thank you. I love that SI is truly one big, caring, we've got your back, no matter what the hour you are never alone, cry/laugh with you (got to love SPF), awesome family.

Posts: 38304 | Registered: Mar 2011

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