[This message edited by musiclovingmom at 11:01 PM, July 24th (Thursday)]
I hope this helps you.
Again you are not alone.
Strength to everyone.
I do tell my H though.
Good advice. While he has been kind and affectionate and compassionate (all wonderful things) he has only just started to do any tangible work (reading a book and trying to initiate communication more) , as in days ago. It has been over a year since dday#2 and almost 2 mos since dday#3 and I'm deathly afraid his efforts will be short term and/or will be the minimum he feels he can do to appease me. I appreciate it. I really do, I just need to see some long term effort (and see what that effort is) I guess before I can feel safe and relax.
I am able to have good days (or part or a day) and times where I feel more at ease with him so it's not like every minute of every day so there's that to be grateful for and I am.
The hardest part is trying to explain the swing to WH...hard to put into words when you can't figure it out yourself.
I'm sorry you are all hurting and triggering and feeling these affects too.