Yesterday I posted my letter on here that we sent to OW. Here is what my husband wrote to her, followed by my letter. After sending OW a no contact letter back in April, we had agreed not to send anything else to her. But when she emailed my husband four more times, I sent a fb message to her husband, just letting him know. She then began to harass me. What my husband wrote to her was harsh- fair warning! But I feel like he has finally stood up for me. (His NC letter was very polite and he took ALL the blame in it.) Anyway, that is the back story. Oh, the picture WH is referring to is the one she sent me on d-day. It is a selfie of the two of them in bed together. He was asleep and she was smiling.
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Heather,
Everything in Tammy's letter below is true. I wanted to send it to you because Tammy is waffling as to whether or not to send it, and I want you to know how we both felt. I totally support her, and I have wronged her in more ways than I can ever fathom. At this point, I want you to go into a hole and die, but in lieu of that please leave me and my family alone. I have told Tammy EVERYTHING that you can ever send her, but please feel free to keep sending more and more hate filled lies and bullshit. You are an evil, soulless tramp who doesn't deserve my love, Michael's or anyone else's. I hope that you realize the pain and suffering that you are causing EVERYONE around you. One day, I and the rest of the world can only hope that you find the strength to PAUSE before you hit send on the FaceBook / email / text / whatever is your latest social "Please Love Me World" button to the world, and realize that you are a total ignorant, uneducated and insignificant peon, and mostly people don't give a SHIT about what you have to say. You are petty, conniving, evil and an all around self centered bitch. I hate that I EVER stooped to pretend to even like you, and let on that you were anything other than an extended one-night stand gone wrong. I have the love of my life here and I have fucking ruined it over you! (P.S. Yes, you have had a big hand in accomplishing ruining an 18 year marriage and 20 year love affair, congratulations! But don't worry, should you keep harassing me and my family, I will send this note to Michael, along with all of the other lies and betrayals that you have reaped upon him. Since you seem to want total devastation, the way you always planned. I thought that I would help you in that regards, also....)
Anyway, please go fuck yourself. Here is the letter from Tammy below, and just so there is NO ROOM for misinterpretation (since apparently my letter did NOT sink in...), DO NOT EVER email, phone, text, Facebook message, smoke signal me or ANY OTHER form of communication that your pea brain can come up with. Am I being vague? How dare you tell Tammy to not contact "your family" again. You are a fucking coward! You contact her behind the veil of "whoops, I didn't mean to send you that picture" (or the other 3-4 notes that you sent I guess?!?) Then, you go and send me 4 different notes trying to get me to "meet you one last time", or I'm sorry, are you going to try and deny those too, you lying fucking whore! I have the IP traced and locked, so please don't try. (And yeah, if Michael is reading this too, it's called VisualRoute, you may need to spell it out for his ignorant ass...) And just curious, what kind of psycho stalker whore takes a picture of someone while they are sleeping with them...hmmm, oh yeah, you do.
So, in summary... I never want to talk to / see you / hear from you again. I want you to leave me and my family alone FOREVER. I am not sure if I can be anymore clear. Good luck in your home wrecking ways (i.e. Asian dude from NC that Michael called and threatened to tell his wife that you happened to also have slept with, but I'm sure that he knows all about that by now since you are such an honest, God-fearing Christian now...)
John
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Heather,
I just want to tell you my true thoughts. First of all, you are a fool if you think John would have ever left me for you. Married men with a history as deep and long as ours almost never leave their wives. I have a twenty year history with John that you simply cannot compete with. We share thousands of special memories and connections. It is no accident that we have stayed together this long. We have massive amounts of love, attraction, and passion for each other. We are both highly educated individuals, and share an intellectual connection as well. I am also the mother of his children. We share this beautiful, amazing bond that you will never have.
You completely underestimated the amount of love John had for me. The fact is, I won him back without ever knowing you existed. I never even knew what I was competing against, and yet I still won. That night at the Tavern (late July), John and I both realized that we didn’t want to divorce. (He probably didn’t tell you about that night.) We spent most of the night crying after we started to really talk about our problems. We have laughed about how our waiter must have thought we were crazy. We were just missing each other so much, but didn’t know how to fix our problems. For the first time in a long while, I saw the man I fell in love with so many years ago. It changed everything for me. I made a decision that night to start working on myself, and to fight for my marriage.
John has made a lot of mistakes, and lost his way for a while. He will have to work every day to make it up to me and prove that he is deserving and worthy of me. He is striving to do that now. He has answered every question I’ve had about your fling, and he is extremely remorseful. He regrets everything. While he was with you, John never stopped having sex with me. You may not be aware of that. He told you what you wanted to hear. Actually, none of this was about sex. He was vulnerable to an affair because he wasn’t getting the attention he needed from me, and seeking an escape from general unhappiness. You were just easy, and met him at his lowest point. Love, passion, and sex were never problems for us- even during that dark period. We experienced a perfect stress storm of job layoffs, financial disaster, new baby, paying for two houses, and then John having to travel all the time.
Right now, I’m letting John stay as we see if I can get past all of this. I’m allowing myself the freedom to change my mind at any time. (Meanwhile, I’ve been enjoying the best sex of my life!) He is paying a large price for his selfish actions. He has had to see and experience my pain and anger. He wants so much to fix it, but he can’t. It’s extremely difficult for a man to see his wife suffer and know that he caused it. I wonder what your punishment will be. You knowingly went after a married man with three kids. I guess destroying lives is some sick game to you. As a mother, I don’t understand how you could try to ruin the lives of my innocent children. I suppose you really are just a horrible, selfish person.
Even if I decide to leave John, I’m certain that he will not go back to you. I don’t think you really knew him at all. It’s ironic because you represent everything that John hates in a woman. For example, he has no respect for women who are vain and take pictures of themselves all the time. He hated the fact that you are a bad mother. (Yes, he told me about your kids not living with you, by your choice.) He has talked at length to me about how shallow and immature you are. He can’t stand women who are loud and obnoxious. You never had him fooled. He was embarrassed of you. He knew all along that you were a complete low-class whore, who was just looking for the best deal. Well, you aren’t going to get him. You are not going to take what is mine and what I’ve spent twenty years building. In fact, you have no power over either of us. I have no intention of spending any more of my time on you. Instead I will put all of my energy into my marriage and family.
By sending me that picture in April, you essentially sealed your fate with John. He is now fully aware of what a vindictive, selfish, and heartless person you are. You are pathetic. He would never in a million years marry someone like you. Any woman with a shred of self-respect would never seek out a married man, especially one with kids. A truly good person would never even be interested in that. You are nothing, and you don’t mean anything to John. If it weren’t you, it would have been someone else. There is nothing special about you. Outer beauty is how you attract a man. Having inner beauty is how you keep one. Grace, class, and integrity are words you apparently don’t understand the meaning of. I’m not a bit threatened by you. I know where I stand in his heart.
Tammy
[This message edited by Tammy1 at 6:51 PM, July 25th (Friday)]