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The last 3 days DD has had accidents while awake...she has simply waited to long to go and pees right in front of the toilet. I know she knows how to control it but she just isnt and its frustrating.

She is going to kindergarten in August and we have been talking about it recently. ...i am wondering if the accidents are related to starting kindergarten and that transition.

Last night she mentioned that she cant stay dry at night and still wears pullups and big girls dont do that. I am wondering if she is getting confused by still wearing the pullups at night? I explained that sometimes kids have a hard time staying dry when sleeping....even kids bigger than her. But I asked if she wants to start night time training and she said yes, so as soon as I get the disposable mattress pads we are going to go for it.

Looking for advice/stories/wisdom from other parents! Thanks

Set a timer for daytime. Kids forget to go in time, especially if they are busy. Gradually extend the time. Reward dry days.

Personally, I never fretted at all about bedtimes. But everyone in my family were bedwetters. No pull ups were available at the time, so we just made do and had lots of spare underwear. Wet beds woke up NO ONE. We tried everything to stop the bedwetting but eventually it just stopped. I don't think trying the big girl pants at night is a bad thing, but my advice is to minimize bedclothes, ie don't use a top sheet, use an easily waged quilt, and don't fuss over accidents. She won't go off to college still wetting the bed.

I second the idea of regularly reminding her during the day. Little kids get very busy & focused on what they're doing. They truly do just forget to go. Gentle reminders (and don't make it an option to go, they have to go & "try" even if they don't want to) will build good habits.

Agree with just reminding her. When she starts kindergarten, send an extra set of clothes in her backpack, just in case. At meet the teacher, pull her aside and let her know.

As far as nighttime goes, according to my doctor it is something with brain chemistry. He told me other than using medication, that I wasn't willing to do, that we would just have to wait for him to outgrow it. He finally did at age 7.

Put on plastic cover, bedsheets, another plastic mattress cover, and another bedsheet. That way when you are exhausted at night, you just pull off the top bedsheets and plastic cover, change her clothes, and you are good to go. Mine also never woke up even when wet, so you might want to use diaper cream on her, because laying in urine might cause her to get a rash.

[This message edited by vcr1995 at 12:53 PM, July 27th (Sunday)]

Thanks for your responses....she did well yesterday and had no accidents....and went to bed wearing underwear with a pullup over it and woke me up at 4:00 to go pee (she was dry) and was still dry when she got up at 7:30!! She was so proud of herself!

My 8 year old son will every now and then STILL wait too long (distracted by playing) and won't make it to the bathroom. While my dd trained at 2.5 and almost never had an accident.

All kids are different, it sounds like she is doing great. I STILL remind my son to use the bathroom before we leave or if he has been playing for awhile. He just doesn't seem to notice...he would also have accidents at night for the first year or two after training. His body wouldn't wake him up. I kept the mattress protector on and put a towel underneath his sheet to soak it all up so the pee wouldn't sit on the mattress protector all night. He wouldn't even wake up when he wet the bed....

Yep...Remind her.
I work in a daycare and this happens especially when they are too busy playing and having fun.
A simple reminder is the trick I use.

My DD used to wet herself when stressed. She never seemed stressed outwardly, but whenever WH was deployed, the first few days she would constantly have accidents. When kids were picking on her in school (up to second grade even!) she had accidents. She eventually grew out of it.