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User Topic: tmi tmi Another tell tale sign of OM tmi tmi
HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just another little confirmation of stbxww's A. I walked into Bathroom to grab something and she's in tub texting him, and it hit me. She's never been one to shave, and usually has massive nasty bush. If I ask enough times she may get around to it twice to three times per year.

Three times in the past two weeks drains been clogged, and I just noticed the clean shave. Hmmm, wonder who that's for? Nah, not him, they're just "friends". Nothing to see here folks, move along. All in my head. ]


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

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Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry. The OW shaved for my husband. Her husband told me she never shaved for him and it was one of the things that made him suspicious that she was lying about being "just friends". It makes me want to drive to their state and set her crotch on fire.


"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson


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HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She's been with so many, I'm not sure her's isn't already on fire!


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

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idontknowwhy5
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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My ww did laser. I thought at the time that it meant I was about to be getting a lot of attention. Nope.


DDays- too many

Status - In D.


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plainpain
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH shaved, too. And he asked me to help him wax his back. So glad to have been able to help him out with his personal grooming. He actually did bring it up himself and apologize to me for it later... still bites.


Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 809 | Registered: Jul 2013
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 11:13 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine shaved for the AP too..

This shit sandwich we have to eat tastes awesome, eh?


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

Posts: 2724 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 11:24 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Something hit me yesterday, and helped me through this realization today. We are getting divorced, she's not a partner, she's a liability. I'm tired of carrying the Marriage single handedly, its supposed to be a 2 person lift.

OM just did me a favor. She's lazy. Once she thinks she has him she'll turn back into a useless troll, cheat on him, and repeat.


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 1032 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 11:50 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yea my wh did too for the ow. Seems to be pretty common.
HAL...clogged drain?? She is lazy for crying out loud that's gross.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

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Charmedwren
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Default  Posted: 6:22 AM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another one here who's WH shaved his balls and ass for OW but apparently they never went "there". Wasn't from his lack of trying.


Me - BW
Him - WH
M 19 years
DD #1 Jan 2013
DD #2 Apr 2013
In limbo for 15 months, three months reconciled and now separated

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NeverAgain2013
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Default  Posted: 6:36 AM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A massive, nasty bush? How utterly attractive. I'm with Ostrich - how lazy and gross can this woman get? Ugh.

I see she's your 'soon to be ex-wife." How much longer do you have to live with Sasquatch before her nasty ass is out of your life?

I hope it's a matter of days.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

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HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 6:56 AM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not sure how much longer she'll be under this roof. Held off on filing to get pre-approval for second house to provide some level of stability for kiddos. Payment is less than half of what rent is for liveable home, and should be less than $350. Put an offer in a few days ago, but its a probate sale so we are waiting on court approval. If the deal goes through the paperwork (already filled out) will be filed same day.

Best case scenario: another 35-40 days.

On the lazy part: How many women do you know use hair dryer, flat iron, etc. then leave them hanging from the plugs in the walls? How many get dressed and leave a pile of old clothes next to tub and new clothes that don't fit etc. on bedroom floor? Take a cup of whatever into the living room, then leave the glass on the floor? Plate on the coffee table? Piles and Piles and PILES OF SHIT EVERYWHERE?

[This message edited by HurtingandLost at 6:59 AM, July 27th (Sunday)]


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

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tryinginmi
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Default  Posted: 7:00 AM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH also started shaving about 2 years before A and started wearing Axe deodorant about the same time. It really makes me wonder if 1. He was already starting to look 2. There maybe another A that I know nothing about. He did not shave for me because I HATED it. Sorry, but ingrown hairs and nasty stubble does not make me want to visit down there.


Me - BW 40
Him - FWH 39
Her - MOW 47 Fat Assed Toothless Man Faced Whore!!!

DD#1 July 28, 2010 Admitted to EA. A went underground.
DD#2 August 19,2010 Admitted PA


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HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

tryinmi -

Sounds like he was already in an A or searching for one from your description. Have you pressed for more answers?


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

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ChangeMaker
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Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This was the first tip-off for me too. I confronted her and she said she did it for me, but I had been out of town for work and it was already a little stubbly. Not for me.

I stopped having sex with her then and there.

One month later, I had the evidence. One month after that, she was out of the house and we are dividing assets.

Good riddance.


"Everything works if you let it." - Travis W. Redfish

DDay - June 7, 2014
Me - 43
WW - 41
DD - 6 and 3
Pulling the Plug


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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 11:30 AM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's not just a woman thing. Some men are pretty gross and leave their shit everywhere too.

It's a lack of character if you ask me. No respect for the place you live or the people there..


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

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million tears
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH trimmed everything nicely for the OW. No stubble but no mountains of hair like he usually had. She trimmed too. I'm not sure if it was for WH but it probably got rid of the unwanted hair in his teeth. I just made myself gag.


2 year LTA-double betrayal, D-day 1-26-2009 and many months of TT. 2 more recent d-days-way overstepped boundaries.

Married 27 years. Together 29.

3 children 24, 21, 14

OW sex addict and romance addict according to MC.


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HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's a lack of character if you ask me. No respect for the place you live or the people there..

Bingo. Something that can be carried across the spectrum of the chaos. Lack of self respect, respect for the BS, respect for the marriage, respect for the family unit.

I feel a Rodney Dangerfield moment coming on....

[This message edited by HurtingandLost at 11:41 AM, July 27th (Sunday)]


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 1032 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Rodney Dangerfield, I get no respect!


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

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Tickingtock
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

On the lazy part: How many women do you know use hair dryer, flat iron, etc. then leave them hanging from the plugs in the walls? How many get dressed and leave a pile of old clothes next to tub and new clothes that don't fit etc. on bedroom floor? Take a cup of whatever into the living room, then leave the glass on the floor? Plate on the coffee table? Piles and Piles and PILES OF SHIT EVERYWHERE?

That's me. I try, but I'm messy. And my husband's neat and tidy. But I've found that my husband puts up with it pretty well.

I think being a loving and supportive wife, and not fucking other dudes, gives me quite a bit of leeway in this department .

[This message edited by Tickingtock at 5:40 PM, July 27th (Sunday)]


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HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I spent a long time in the military, and while not a stickler for dress right dress, I can handle SOME clutter. Just not chaos.

Never used to get to me until I woke up one day reliving my FOO doing ALL of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, dishes, yard work, bathroom, sweeping, mopping, vacuuming, parenting, etc. Asked her to step to the plate and she never has.

It became a HUGE freaking issue.


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

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