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So we just got back from a family vacation that involved the ocean, hiking, woods. The day we get back we notice my 2 yr old has small bumps on her lower abdomen near her hip that she is scratching. My husband says that's strange bc He has itchy bumps there too.. 5 days later her bumps are still there but she only itches when her diaper is off. My FWH is complaining that his is itching really bad an spreading down his leg, up his side. He works all weekend so I took dd to the dr. She rules it as swimmers itch. Today FWH comes home says the itching is unbearable and he discovered a bump on the tip of his penis near the urethra. I'm hoping the bumps are related but seeing this bump on his penis is scaring me that it could be herpes. I of course am looking up everything I can an chiggers, bed bugs, etc...comes up. My dds rash looks different now but idk if it's just bc she doesn't have access to it to scratch and FWHs is infected. He's going to the dr. Monday but I'm freaking out! He had a full std panel done after Dday 2 yrs ago, but I've read that herpes can be sneaky. It's probably a bad habit but we share towels, and blankets. I so hope it's just swimmers itch or something that will go away! Idk what I will do if it's herpes! The wait will be torture!

I think you are engaged in a bout of hypochondria, which I can understand. Most likely the penile bump is the same as the rash. I understand your worry and your concern but until the doctor's visit, please stop scaring yourself with Google and try to take a deep breath. At the very worst case (which is unlikely), herpes is permanent but not fatal. Don't share towels. Don't have sex, with or without condoms until you are cleared. Let us know what happens.

While I'm not inclined to believe that it's a Herpes outbreak, at the same time, you say that he had a full STD panel of tests 2 years ago.

I understand (crazily enough) that Herpes is NOT part of the standard testing procedure and that you have to ASK specifically to be tested for it along with everything else. It's a blood test.

So, did they actually do a blood test 2 years ago and he got a negative result for Herpes?

I'm pretty sure he did because he asked to be tested for all stds. They just called and told us that the tests were all negative.

Daisy,

I have been debating on going to the beach (Gulf) today. This morning they had on the news we have 7 beaches near me that have higher than normal bad form of bacteria (that causes a bad infection starting at the skin that can spread to other important organs).

And that the doctors say to stay out of the water if you have a cut. And to "plug" your nose if you get in the water. Doesn't sound good and I usually am pretty brave.

I live near the Gulf. This is not good and I can't take the risk of any infection anywhere. I'm not happy about it, but I just can't go. And it's 95 here!

I'm a nurse. I wouldn't take a chance with this itching and rash as you've described it. It doesn't sound like your H is exaggerating. Daughter and H need to be seen by doc. soon.

Sorry. Don't mean to scare you, but the way they put it this AM. I'd be careful.

Google SWF beach infections and you'll see.

[This message edited by Thinkingtoomuch at 12:22 PM, July 27th (Sunday)]

I took my dd to the dr on Friday an she said it was swimmers itch and would go away in a few days. It doesn't seem to be getting better or worse on her but my FWHs rash was bad last night. He said the itching is a lil better today. He's going to the dr. Tomorrow.

What ate you doing for the itch? Benadryl? Steroid cream?
Is it oozy? Is it dry ?

Have you been washing bus towels, sheets, washcloths, and clothes Daily?
How a cool oatmeal bath?

This sounds like chiggers or poison something or other. I would ask that they do examine the penis bump just the same and for God's sake do not engage in sex until all clear.

We are outdoorsy people and I can't tell you how many times we have come home from a trip with someone or multiples of us having something. My son has horrific bites all over his Lower legs. Pretty sure they are from no see ems. He had several evening Bocci ball matches with his papa while we were on vacation.