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HurtingandLost (original poster member #29322) posted at 12:22 AM on Monday, July 28th, 2014
First and foremost, THANK YOU. Thank you for sniffing after my wife for the last couple months and consummating each other's "love". You allowed her to show her true, selfish colors (for the umpteenth time) and ask for a D. In the fog, she was able to rewrite our marriage history and blame shift, which allowed me to pull my head out of my ass and run for the divorce forms faster than Carl Lewis on steroids.
You see, that bag of issues is now YOUR bag of issues. She's so emotionally stunted and lacking introspection that she will never own them, so they will become yours by default. All of them. Her Borderline Personality Disorder. Her lies. Her cheating. Her hoarding. Speaking of which, THANK YOU. I can finally see, for the first time since we've been married, the fact that I will finally have a garage to be used for something besides throwing shit and hoarding until its filled front to back, top to bottom.
Thank you for removing the cancer from my home. The nasty filth that she insists on living in. I've grown weary of wasting every waking moment of my life cleaning up her shit so our kids don't wallow in it. Thank you for removing her poor parenting from the equation at least every other week, allowing me to finally provide the stability that they need.
Thank you for making me realize how toxic my life has been with her, and how much better its about to become without her in it. Thank you for showing me that I am a great guy after all, deserving of so much more than this bullshit.
I would only add that there is a NO REFUND NO EXCHANGE policy in this transaction, and only wish you the best. Her warranty expired when the tail lights dimmed in the distance this morning. In other words, YOU'RE FUCKED!
[This message edited by HurtingandLost at 6:39 PM, July 27th (Sunday)]
soveryweary ( member #32265) posted at 1:04 AM on Monday, July 28th, 2014
Bravo HurtingandLost. I'm giving you a standing ovation!!
Divorced 1/3/14 after 31 years of marriage.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 1:06 AM on Monday, July 28th, 2014
I get writing this, but I hope you don't send it.
You're giving him a warning. He may wake up and break off with your STBXW. It's much better IMO for him to connect ever ore deeply before he sees what he's gotten himself into. I'm for giving no help at all to any ap.
JMO, of course.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
WinterBranch ( member #42671) posted at 1:06 AM on Monday, July 28th, 2014
Me: Woman.
Him: Con-man who's gone...divorced him and still at SI cuz I'm dustin' off my hands, folks...
HurtingandLost (original poster member #29322) posted at 1:13 AM on Monday, July 28th, 2014
@ Sisoon -
I most certainly have no intention of giving the loser a head's up. Let their love blossom. Then let the pain begin!
[This message edited by HurtingandLost at 7:13 PM, July 27th (Sunday)]
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 1:45 AM on Monday, July 28th, 2014
Clapping my hands for you. You basically said to hell with them, and that they can't bother you. You rock!
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
918Mama ( member #37756) posted at 8:46 AM on Monday, July 28th, 2014
Where's Hufi-Pufi's slow clapping guy when you need him?? This is awesome!! Enjoy, OM!
Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be. -- Sonia Ricotti
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 1:24 PM on Monday, July 28th, 2014
I most certainly have no intention of giving the loser a head's up.
Great minds think alike.... 
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
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