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User Topic: Computer Access
Delilah169
♀ 43689
Member # 43689
Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, July 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does anyone know how to look at a computer that is password protected? Cannot break the PW, don't know what to do. Need to see some old emails if I can, and make sure there are no new ones (which I am suspecting).


Me - BS, Him - WS
Her - POS WB Fake Friend
Married - 22 Years, together 25
One 22 yo DD
DD - 4/28/13, TT for over a year
Doing well with R
"Life might be a little simpler if we just got over it"
"It all seems so clear in hindsight"

Posts: 121 | Registered: Jun 2014
mhca
♂ 41920
Member # 41920
Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, July 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can pull out the hard drive and put it into a portable USB enclosure, and plug that into another computer. You should then be able to read the files if it's not encrypted.

Sounds complicated but not too hard.

If the emails are on an internet provider (gmail, etc) then this won't help much, you probably will need the passwords to access that.

[This message edited by mhca at 5:45 PM, July 28th (Monday)]


Me: BH 47 STBXWW 47 (Lklb5)
M 19 years, DS 15, DS 11
DD#1: 12/24/2013
TT/Broke NC/False R
DD#2: 4/15/2014
TT 4/23, 4/24, 5/31, 7/19
Divorcing

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Posts: 902 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California
wk55hn
♂ 44159
Member # 44159
Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, July 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You could ask him for the password and if he refuses then just assume the worst.

Posts: 668 | Registered: Jul 2014
I think I can
♀ 17756
Member # 17756
Default  Posted: 5:49 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^^^^^^^

This. In R, no one gets to have password protected stuff. Or I'm outta here.


I'm not the winner, I'm the prize.

Posts: 8849 | Registered: Jan 2008
william
41986
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Default  Posted: 6:06 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

exactly. a WS has a right to privacy. they can close the bathroom door when they use the toilet. they lost their right to "secrets" as soon as they committed betrayal.


me - bh
her - lara01

from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA

??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys


Posts: 589 | Registered: Jan 2014
spond
♂ 41686
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Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm with the majority here. Tell him complete transparency is part of recovery, all passwords or GTFO!!!

If the emails are on an internet provider (gmail, etc) then this won't help much, you probably will need the passwords to access that.
Unless you use Outlook or some other email client that downloads them to the PC.


BH(me) | fWW
2 Kids - Married 2002
D-Day TT & EA | D-Day #2 PA
Reconciling

Posts: 427 | Registered: Dec 2013
NeverAgain2013
♀ 38121
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Default  Posted: 7:33 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd sit his sorry ass at the computer and MAKE him put in the password. Then I'd make sure we DELETED it in the user profile section.

Then I'd kick him out of the chair and sit down go through it with a fine-tooth comb.

Lastly, I'D password protect the whole damned thing down in the BIOS so he can't even BOOT past the initial boot-up screen.

Cheaters who are TRULY remorseful don't keep hiding things. Seems your husband still has a lot to hide.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1958 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
Delilah169
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I should have been clearer in my original post. This is his work computer, required to have a PW. His personal computer, cell, etc. all have had their PW's passed on to me. But I suspect there is a LOT of data on his work computer; I don't have regular access to it, and the PW he gave me doesn't work. . . For sure, I can't take out his hard drive lol. I guess I'm wondering if there's spyware available that can remotely be installed and truly works???


Me - BS, Him - WS
Her - POS WB Fake Friend
Married - 22 Years, together 25
One 22 yo DD
DD - 4/28/13, TT for over a year
Doing well with R
"Life might be a little simpler if we just got over it"
"It all seems so clear in hindsight"

Posts: 121 | Registered: Jun 2014
wk55hn
♂ 44159
Member # 44159
Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tell him to give you a password that works.

No one will know you are looking at it unless HE tells them.

I have work devices and passwords, believe me nobody cares if my wife looks at them, they don't think she's going to be selling any corporate secrets.


Posts: 668 | Registered: Jul 2014
I think I can
♀ 17756
Member # 17756
Default  Posted: 7:00 AM, August 4th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep. My husband also shares his work password. Make him tell it to you, then log in immediately. If he is still cheating, this is what will happen: he'll say no, then the next day he will say ok. In between he will have deleted everything.


I'm not the winner, I'm the prize.

Posts: 8849 | Registered: Jan 2008
annb
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Default  Posted: 7:07 AM, August 4th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have had my husband's work password, both to his emails and voicemails, since D-Day in 2005.

I'd ask him for the password, and if he is not willing to give it to you, then he is not willing to allow you the truth which is critical to R.


Posts: 7666 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
NeverAgain2013
♀ 38121
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, August 4th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Delilah - when you ask for a WORKING password (and not the one he gave you that he knows DOESN'T work), make sure he's RIGHT NEXT TO YOU.

If you do it during the day or text him while he's at work, etc. etc. all he's going to do is clean that thing up from top to bottom before he brings it home.

Never tip your hand.

Wait until he - and the computer - are RIGHT in front of you and then demand the password.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1958 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
ascian
♂ 40304
Member # 40304
Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, August 4th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is this a computer that he/you purchased for work-related tasks, or a work-supplied computer?

If the latter, be careful in what you do there. Depending on the industry, unauthorized (ie. "non-employee") access to company computers can lose the company contracts or can be in violation of federal laws that carry pretty hefty penalties.


Me - BH 40
Her - FWW 37
D-Day: 8/13
Working on R

Posts: 325 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Midwest
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