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steadfast1973 posted 7/29/2014 09:07 AM

Has anyone else experienced a shift in what makes you feel loved since the A? Mine used to be words of affirmation. Since the A, his words mean nothing. He's been doing all of the things that used to do it for me. But nothing. I feel like a completely different person. Nothing I liked before does it for me, anymore.

Chefj9 posted 7/29/2014 09:11 AM

Yes, my language used to be "Acts of Service". Now it's "Quality Time". I also need the affirmation, but the words just fall flat. It's frustrating, because what I need, he tries to give.... But it's not working for me at the moment.

steadfast1973 posted 7/29/2014 09:12 AM

I also need quality time, now.

kate0421 posted 7/29/2014 09:56 AM

Yes it has changed. But now I want it all, I may be asking a bit much but it's like I want to see him demonstrate all the love language to me. I want words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, and quality time and whatever else he can do to make me feel loved. The problem I have is communicating them. I guess I just expect him to read my mind since it changes daily and changes by what's going on in our relationship. Although I guess I am coming to realize .. WS isn't a mind reader...

steadfast1973 posted 7/29/2014 13:18 PM

Exactly that.

Imissmyhusb posted 7/29/2014 21:46 PM

I think i underestimated my need for physical touch as a love language. I always thought time and service were more impt to me but now... I need to touch and be touched waaay more than i did before

damaged13 posted 7/30/2014 04:20 AM

Mine is quality time but quality time spent with someone I no longer love, trust, or respect is empty & meaningless.

OakStreet posted 7/30/2014 04:52 AM

Mine is quality time but quality time spent with someone I no longer love, trust, or respect is empty & meaningless.

I just learned about Love Language through my IC last week. WH was all about taking the test and of course, his language was 'affirmation' followed by 'physical touch'. No surprise there.

Mine came back 'quality time', but like damaged, I can't imagine. I haven't shared my Love Language with WH, because I am wanting to spend LESS time around him.

We are going to second round of MC next week - perhaps things will improve.

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