Topic: He put the wrong birthdate on her headstone
Member # 11224
| Posted: 9:54 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
I've posted before about my best friend who died of breast cancer last August at age 40. And what a total alcoholic, lying, disgusting jackoff her husband is.
It has taken him almost a year to buy a headstone. He took off work twice during the spring to go do it, but ended up golfing and drinking with buddies instead. After being prompted by her sisters to do it (they offered to do it instead, but he didn't want to give them access to the money set aside for it - likely because it isn't all there... but I digress), he finally ordered one.
I don't talk to this asshat anymore, but my sister-in-law does. He sent her a picture of the headstone. Not only is his name on it, too (why would he want to be buried by her? He moved his girlfriend in THE WEEK AFTER SHE DIED. Plus - there is NO PLOT AVAILABLE anywhere around her...), but her birthday is wrong. Sure, he got the date and year correct. But he told them February instead of March. And when it was pointed out to him by my sister-in-law, he said "What am I supposed to do? It's already done and being set this week."
I hate him. I really have nothing but contempt and disgust for him. I am sure somehow this will get fixed, but that's not the point. Why does he continue to disrespect her so much in death? Didn't he do enough of that when she was alive?
Posts: 1052 | Registered: Jul 2006
Member # 24210
| Posted: 10:03 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
Wow - that is awful.
I am sure somehow this will get fixed, but that's not the point.
I hope so but I am not so sure it will be. Doesn't sound like it was a big priority for him.
As you know - there is no changing what he is, does or will do.
All you can do is just keep honoring your BF's memory your own way.
Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.
Posts: 2361 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
Member # 12041
| Posted: 10:06 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
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Member # 29341
| Posted: 10:07 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
That's just sick. I'm so sorry.
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Posts: 7089 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
Member # 23138
| Posted: 10:08 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
I'm just sitting here shaking my head. I don't even know where to start.
I hope it does get fixed but like Evenkeel said, it wasn't a priority before so I'm not sure it will be a priority now.
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Posts: 3264 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Inside your computer.
Member # 42092
| Posted: 11:22 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
How awful. I'm so sorry. (((stroppy & BF))))
Sit. Feast on your life.
Posts: 4262 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Member # 26531
| Posted: 12:30 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
I'm so sorry Stroppy
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Posts: 24955 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
Member # 21896
| Posted: 12:58 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
wow. that is....just beyond horrific.
I'm so so sorry stroopy.
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Posts: 1074 | Registered: Dec 2008
Member # 31528
| Posted: 1:03 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
That is awful. I'm sorry.
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Member # 32368
| Posted: 1:08 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
I read some of these posts and it really challenges my faith in humanity. This is one big ass prick.
I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know.
Posts: 591 | Registered: Jun 2011
Member # 34477
| Posted: 1:17 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012
My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.
Posts: 673 | Registered: Jan 2012
Member # 11224
| Posted: 1:37 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
Thank you all for the support. I needed someone to get mad at him with me today.
As far as how I know it will get fixed, well, I am certain her sisters won't stand for it. While they let him drag his feet on getting a stone, they won't let it rest that way. Even if it means buying one themselves. And I really don't think in the end he'd fight them to get a corrected one in (as long as his name is on it, and he doesn't have to pay for it).
Come to think of it, his name doesn't look too awful on a headstone. (I am so sorry, God. That was a horrible thing to say! But I'm not taking it back just yet.)
Posts: 1052 | Registered: Jul 2006
Member # 21101
| Posted: 2:42 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
What a useless pile of shit.
I hope your dear friend is haunting him and making his life torture.
You know making his wanker limp, and his girlfriend grow big old nasty man hairs out her nose, on her chin, and back.
I am sorry that your friend isn't getting the respect she deserves.
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Posts: 9054 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Member # 11176
| Posted: 4:48 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
Because in the end it really is all about him.
I'm sorry for your friend and her sisters.
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Posts: 6668 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
Member # 20563
| Posted: 9:27 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
I have thought of this all day. It makes ME want to kick his a$$.
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Posts: 6814 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
Member # 34722
| Posted: 10:34 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014|
I just saw this. How awful! Maybe, if he lets her sisters get a new one and demands his name be on it too, they can put a date of death for him in the not-too-distant future.....?
Maybe that would wake him up to the disrespect.
I know.... I know.... But I couldn't resist.
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Posts: 2707 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
Member # 37184
| Posted: 10:39 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014|
Maybe the sisters will replace it and keep his name OFF it!!! What an ass.
I'm sure hoping so,,,,,,,,,
Posts: 753 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: new york
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