So i have AN answer, but I need help with the steps from here.
So a little while back, I finally asked DH about the phone number on his work phone. Previous conversations told me that 1. He didn't use Facetime for work (he works with criminals) and 2. He only facetimes with people he knows.
So with that info at my disposal, I asked who's number this is.
Immediately he was defensive saying that he doesnt know (but that I should since i have probably looked it up....I have, but I wasn't going to tell him that) - that they keep trying to face time him and he doesn't know why.....
I asked him why they have been trying since Feb. to facetime him - why hasn't he just called the number to ask them to stop.
Also, he pointed out that most of them say 'missed call' or 'facetime answered on other device" - he's like i don't even know what that means. (I have tried to look this up, but it's very confusing. It could be that someone is using his appleID, or that someone answered it with an ipod or ipad....or it's calling itself....its really confusing)
Long story short - he changed the locking password on his work phone. Now i can't get into it.....when i saw that i thought i had stepped into China with all those red flags.
He has not changed his password to his personal phone, but then....that's probably only a matter of time.
I am going to be buy and hiding a VAR tomorrow after work - and then let it say there over the weekend (he works so i should get something hopefully).
The only other think i have to do is a Keylogger, but DH is a computer whizz and I am not. He can find keyloggers and he's paranoid, so he actually looks for them now....I dont know which one i can get that he won't be able to find.