When he got out the next day I confronted him and he claimed he was going to tell me and was really trying to find a way to break it all to me, but at that point I already caught you so it doesn't mean anything. So far he denies sleeping with anyone, but I don't believe him even though he is saying the right things "verbally taking responsibility for his actions/behavior" and I need to know for myself.
I also want to add that he could be telling the truth about not sleeping with anyone else, he did share an incident that he met someone, but nothing happened because they "turned him off". I think he couldn't get it up to do it, but who knows?!? (Yes I got tested, waiting for results) The last results (2/14) from routine testing done by doctors office didn't produce any issues. Also I'm not too worried as he just donated a kidney to his sister back in April and they tested him repeatedly from Oct to April for all sorts of things.
So I really want to call, but because I don't know what I will find out, I'm scared and debating whether to call or not.
I think I will block my number,(should I call from unknown or use an app to change the way my # appears) has anyone done this before...called a OW or OM number they found in the phone.
I feel sick just thinking about what this OW might say.
Me: BS 30
Him: WH, 37 porn, sexting, pic sharing,& phone sex with women,+ maybe more for past 3 yrs..
2 kids, M 11 yrs, 2Gether 15yrs
Agreed to R, but doubtful and unsure if I should just move on alone.
We are scheduled for our 1st MC session tomorrow night... we'll see.
I also want to add that he could be telling the truth about not sleeping with anyone else, he did share an incident that he met someone, but nothing happened because they "turned him off". I think he couldn't get it up to do it, but who knows?!?
Liar 101 -- admit to a plausible half-truth.
Guarantee there is more to the picture. He surely had intent to meet up and cheat, that's for sure
Have you searched his computer and looked at itemized phone recs from online billing statement.
OW lie, a lot. I mean, as much as a wayward spouse lies. More, sometimes. You're hoping a woman that's willing to sext (at a minimum) with a married man will be honest. She won't be. She'll either cover for him to save herself the embarrassment/headache of answering your questions and to keep him happy, or she'll make it worse than it was in order to get you to leave him, so she can have him. ANY talk with OW is a waste of time.
If you want the truth, the real truth, you'll need to get it yourself. I'd put the monitoring software on his phone, and then tell him you're going to call her and get the truth. He'll most likely contact her directly to warn her, and hopefully they'll discuss the real truth so that they can get their lies straight.
There's even software that will record his phone conversations.
I'm sorry you're being given a load of garbage. The plausible half-truth that ShiningAutumn8 mentioned is exactly what happens, btw. They make themselves look bad enough that you think that's the truth, but in reality the truth is much, much worse.
Good luck. It's hard discovering all of this and trying to make sense of it. Keep posting for advice/support. There are thousands of members here, and between all of us, we've seen it all.