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Topic: Can't do it anymore

Jls0320
♀ 41192
Member # 41192

Posted: 11:42 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014

My WH and I have been sort of separated for over a week now in house while he "figures out his head", which I find out today means breaking NC with his EAP and visiting her at work at 6:30 am for the past 2 days. He just needed to talk....supposedly had maintained NC since February but just this week went to see her. He is not remorseful and has done nothing for months to repair our marriage. Thank goodness I had a tracker and looked it up today since he planned to not tell me, I am so thankful for my gut that doesn't believe his never ending lies and bullshit. Meeting with lawyer tomorrow, done done done :(

Me: 33 BS 2 boys (3 & 5yr)
Him: 34 WH, sex addict, narcissist, 18 mos EA/2 mos PA with co-worker whore
Too many DDays 9/13-1/15, too many chances to be a good man
Together 16 yrs, married 7yrs,
Divorced 2/11/15
I deserve to be the ONLY one!

Posts: 742 | Registered: Nov 2013

mhca
♂ 41920
Member # 41920

Posted: 11:53 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014

He can figure out his head far away from you. What bullshit. Unbelievable.

Fuck that guy. Good luck with the lawyer.

Me: BH 48 - STBXWW 47 - M 19 years
DS15 - DS11
DD#1: 12/24/2013
False R
DD#2: 4/15/2014
TT 4/23, 4/24, 5/31, 7/19
Divorcing

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Posts: 1116 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California

Jrazz
♀ 31349
Member # 31349

Posted: 12:05 AM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014

(((Jls0320)))

Stay strong, girl. We've got your back.

"All the wars, all the hatred, all the ignorance in the world come out of being so invested in our opinions. And at bottom, those opinions are merely our efforts to escape the underlying uneasiness of being human. - Pema Chodron

Posts: 20889 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California

FixYou71
♀ 42654
Member # 42654

Posted: 3:33 AM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014

(((Jls0320)))
Clearly he doesn't deserve you and you don't deserve his BS.
I'm sorry. Take care of you.

BS: 43
H: 50
Dday #1 Oct 2007 (Porn for 2 yrs)
Dday #2 May 2013 (Porn for 5 more yrs))
Dday#3 May 2014 (finally admitted to drunk kissing OW in 1994: the 2nd drunken kiss with another woman during our M)
DD 21 and DS 18
Married 1993

Posts: 675 | Registered: Mar 2014

SMSA925
♀ 43955
Member # 43955

Posted: 10:23 AM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014

{{{Jls0320}}}

He had a choice, which alot of WS dont get. He made the wrong choice. Thats on him. Good luck with the lawyer, and with your future

Me: BS; 56
Him: WH 62
Together 32 yrs, Married 20
DDay April 17, 2014

Posts: 228 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Phila. PA

Jls0320
♀ 41192
Member # 41192

Posted: 10:52 AM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014

When I asked him if he thought about the choice he was making and that I would most likely find out, he said yes it was a risk he was willing to make :(. He's a manipulative, self absorbed, pathological liar. He's already trying to Hoover me, I've just pretended he doesn't exist until I can get him out. OW has nothing on me, but if he wants someone just like him, he found her! I'm so disgusted in him, sad I could have already been divorced but believed his lies earlier this year, not anymore....

Posts: 742 | Registered: Nov 2013

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