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ProbableIceCream (original poster member #37468) posted at 6:50 AM on Wednesday, July 30th, 2014
I decided today to let things calm down and stop worrying about my future because worrying isn't helping, and pushing myself too hard because of worrying is being counterproductive. (Basically I worry when I don't have an exact plan for something really important--in my case, it was housing and now it's finding my next job, which I actually have a fair amount of time left to do.)
It helps a lot that I have a stable place to live again and that I picked it out and have full control over what goes into it, so there's a big sense of ownership. I'm actually being very picky about what I bring into the place. I'm kind of a minimalist.
I got back to meditating today and back to cardio yesterday. Meditating has been hard to do, probably because I've been feeling overwhelmed and trying to distract myself from the present. But I did it.
Anyway, I'm just going to try to follow my own sense of what to do, and take it really easy on myself and basically pretend that things are already okay, because I think that gives me the best chance of a good outcome. I'm thinking my fears are illogical anyway.. it's just when I have trouble with energy or cognition I can get into this stress spiral because for a long time energy and cognition were all I had going for me... they allowed me to do well at my job and earn money. And thereby take care of my daughter and so on.
fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 8:14 AM on Wednesday, July 30th, 2014
No words of advice, just hearing you out here in Cali. I stress myself out over stuff as well, or at least I used to. Unless it is life threatening, it is not worth it. You are strong, you will make it!!
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 9:00 AM on Wednesday, July 30th, 2014
You're doing a great job of taking care of your daughter. You deserve your own focus and kindness as well.
(((PIC)))
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 2:54 PM on Wednesday, July 30th, 2014
I think letting go of your fear would be wonderful for you. We aren't ever going to be able to control everything in life; you're doing a great job at handling the logistics of what *is* in your control, so trust yourself to pull it all together. Sounds like some meditation will be just the right antidote!
ProbableIceCream (original poster member #37468) posted at 11:53 PM on Wednesday, July 30th, 2014
I took care of a few routine personal tasks today. Located some forms, printed them out, filled them out, and scanned and emailed them to where they need to go. Nothing too stressful or hard. But man, it was a lot of effort mentally. That's an example of what I mean by my energy/cognition are low...
Anyway, I'm proud of myself for catching up on those things (they were important--school related, mostly), even though I can remember a time when it wouldn't have seemed like that much.
Even writing this is difficult for me today. My brain hurts.
ProbableIceCream (original poster member #37468) posted at 12:10 AM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
(also, this is what has historically scared me about the job thing.. jobs in my field require A LOT of mental clarity.. but I'm trusting that if I take care of myself/recuperate, it will get much better)
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:49 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
You're doing amazingly well. They say worry is a waste of the imagination, and it's true.
I meditated a lot through the worst of things and it's a lifesaver. Which reminds me, I must start again.
It's ok to be mentally exhausted. Once you refill the tank you'll be right as rain and ready to take on the next hurdle.
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
ProbableIceCream (original poster member #37468) posted at 11:54 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
Thanks, FaithFool.
It's really scary giving up control of stuff. I have a tendency to try to keep all the important stuff in my head. Today that just wasn't flying.. brain would not let me think, period. I knew there were no deadlines passing or anything weird happening, so I just turned off my phone ringer and got some rest.
I am unbelievably fortunate to have a period of time in which my work is both telecommute and my duties are extremely light, until I find my next job, and I hope that gives me the ability to heal out of days like this. It's really not just for work purposes either, that I want to get better. I want to be able to enjoy life/engage with my daughter too.
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 1:46 AM on Friday, August 1st, 2014
Have you found a local doc yet to help you adjust your meds?
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
ProbableIceCream (original poster member #37468) posted at 1:49 AM on Friday, August 1st, 2014
Nope. But I am going to try to find one or more tonight who I can call to set up an appointment tomorrow. I think that's a worthwhile thing to do.
ProbableIceCream (original poster member #37468) posted at 1:59 AM on Friday, August 1st, 2014
I found a couple that appear to have good ratings and are nearby, to call tomorrow. At the very least this will get me started. (I find that sometimes I run into a dud and have to change doctors...)
ProbableIceCream (original poster member #37468) posted at 3:11 AM on Friday, August 1st, 2014
Honestly I think this stuff is all exacerbated by stress, so........ yeah, seeing the right doctors and taking care of myself is all I can really do. I've been really pushing the changes this year.
There's a meditation group that my current work offers that I'm going to find out more about.
ProbableIceCream (original poster member #37468) posted at 7:45 AM on Friday, August 1st, 2014
So I went and helped a friend move today. Got some exercise out of that, which is great. Sort of interesting, though, is that I'm noting the same fatigue when doing physical things as when doing mental things. So... yeah, that's consistent with stress. I really do push myself pretty hard, and in some ways that are not very flashy but hopefully will pay off later.
ProbableIceCream (original poster member #37468) posted at 6:38 PM on Friday, August 1st, 2014
I now have an intake appointment for Tuesday afternoon at the latest.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 8:41 PM on Friday, August 1st, 2014
Excellent.
Keep doing things as you are, PIC - step by step, bite by bite. You're doing great.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
ProbableIceCream (original poster member #37468) posted at 4:28 AM on Saturday, August 2nd, 2014
thanks, NIK.
This is a new way of doing things for me. I think this relocation was my last "seizing control" move for a while (at least until I recover a bit more). Now I have to learn to be okay with not being able to do that, and just trust that things will work out... not very easy, but I've made all the moves I can and exhausted all my options for now, so... yeah.
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 5:47 AM on Saturday, August 2nd, 2014
You're doing great.
NIK took the words outta my mouth.
I agree - this has been a ton of huge transition, and you are doing a great job of handling it all. None of it's easy, but you are putting one foot in front of the other, getting out of bed each morning, and making progress. And you have a plan! That's a HUGE piece, having a timeline and a plan, because it means you can move forward as a reasonable but still effective pace.
Keep it up.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
ProbableIceCream (original poster member #37468) posted at 3:57 AM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014
phew. man, today was rough. i just drifted in and out of sleep all day. went and saw a movie just now, but that was all i did.
thanks for the encouragement.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:33 AM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014
((((PIC)))) It's ok to take a day off to check out and recharge, Hon. Take several if you need.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 4:38 AM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014
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