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Crushed1 posted 7/30/2014 14:15 PM

I was getting a print framed at a local shop when a woman acquaintance I knew from a long time ago came rushing in with her daughter and they went up to the counter. She was holding a large family studio portrait and laid it down then grabbed a pen from the counter and began angrily scribbling all over the man's image.

The clerk stared at her and asked if he could help her. She said "Yeah, I want you to take this bastard out of the picture" and she started stabbing his image and kept scribbling all over him till he was just a blur. "You won't believe what he did to me" she said very loudly and she was shaking all over. Her daughter put her arm around her and tried to calm her.

I got a gut feeling immediately that he had cheated on her. Yep, he did and wanted a divorce so he could go off with his slut. We talked briefly and she was devastated, she just spilled words out...she had put him through college and he was an assistant VP at a bank. She was still working to help pay off debts. She had worked so hard...then she burst into tears.

Yeah, I could so relate as many of us here who've been betrayed can understand what she was feeling. He lied and denied for a long time and she finally busted him. And now he was going to walk out on her after 26 years together.

The picture showed a family...three teens, her and her husband, all smiling and looking just like a happy little family. And I thought "you just never know"...

The clerk said they'd redo the picture for her and she left quickly.

I went back the next week to pick up my print and her daughter came walking in. She looked so downcast and I was going to ask about her mother and I had thought I would tell her about SI, as I didn't have time to the week prior, she was just too hysterical to really talk to then.

Her daughter told the clerk "I came to pick up the picture my mother brought in last week" the clerk said it was ready and went to get it from the back. When he returned he said "I hope she likes it" and he laid it on the counter for her to check. She just stared sadly at the picture, then her voice cracked and she said "My mother died two days after we brought this in, she had a heart attack". The whole place got silent.

I got chills all over. I told her DD that I was sorry and gave her a hug. She started crying and looked at the picture which now showed just her, her two siblings and their mother smiling. It really blew me away.

People just never know what's going to happen. Such a sad ending to a life.

MovingUpward posted 7/30/2014 14:17 PM

That is so awful.

norabird posted 7/30/2014 14:18 PM

((((Crushed1))))

stillcrying4ever posted 7/30/2014 14:21 PM

So very very sad. No one ever knows what the next minute will bring.

OkNotOk posted 7/30/2014 14:21 PM

oh wow!


That is sad.

SisterMilkshake posted 7/30/2014 14:24 PM

I hope the cheating bastard and his bitch whore slut are haunted by guilt and shame for the rest of their, hopefully, miserable fucking lives.

Those poor innocent children now only have a cheating asshole father who literally killed their mother and his disgusting cumdumpster, probably future O'Wife and step monster.

imagoodwitch posted 7/30/2014 14:26 PM

O.M.G.

How incredibly sad.

jo2love posted 7/30/2014 14:28 PM

(((Crushed)))
(((BW's children)))

My heart goes out to those who loved her.

sinsof thefather posted 7/30/2014 14:33 PM

That is so sad! Those poor children..

cvs2kkids posted 7/30/2014 14:33 PM

I hope the cheating bastard and his bitch whore slut are haunted by guilt and shame for the rest of their, hopefully, miserable fucking lives.

Those poor innocent children now only have a cheating asshole father who literally killed their mother and his disgusting cumdumpster, probably future O'Wife and step monster.

The reality is, those kids will perceive their father as such.


Crushed1 posted 7/30/2014 14:37 PM

BW was in such a fury that day in the store and I know she couldn't think straight, she was just blurting things out in front of all of us. I could feel her pain so deeply and wished I could have helped her.

Yeah Sister, I hear ya!

Her poor children and that DD who had come in with her, she was hurting so bad and I started crying when I hugged her.

BtraydWife posted 7/30/2014 14:39 PM

That is awful! Those poor kids.

Guinness23 posted 7/30/2014 14:46 PM

OMG!!!

From my perch, I am calling that murder! The cheating asshole should be charged and you and the photo place guy are witnesses as to WHY she was distraught. 26 years married probably puts her in the over 50 category which is RIPE for heartattacks. Her family history probably shows it too. He and cumdumpter slut MURDERED her.

SisterMilkshake posted 7/30/2014 14:50 PM

(((Crushed1))) I am sure the DD appreciated your compassion and empathy. About how old was the DD do you think?

DixieD posted 7/30/2014 14:56 PM

Crushed that is so incredibly sad. Those poor kids. Their lives will never be the same.

I hope the two perpetrators in the story burn in hell if they don't see the horror and destruction they've caused.

TheIrishGirl posted 7/30/2014 14:56 PM

I hope that jackass of a father and his pathetic excuse for a human OW have just enough money to get those children a great therapist. They will have no respect at all for either adult in the house, and rightfully so. I hope the BW was a strong enough figure in their lives while they had her to have taught them how to live well.

TheIrishGirl posted 7/30/2014 14:58 PM

What really sucks, is that since it was all so new, the D hadn't happened, and any/all of the assets will default to the WH. Even if one of the teens was 18 and could take legal guardianship of the siblings, and inherit the house and what have you, the BW didn't have time to set it up.

GotPlayed posted 7/30/2014 15:02 PM

This really hit home for me. I'll start a new thread not to t/j.

NaiveAgain posted 7/30/2014 15:05 PM

What really sucks, is that since it was all so new, the D hadn't happened, and any/all of the assets will default to the WH. Even if one of the teens was 18 and could take legal guardianship of the siblings, and inherit the house and what have you, the BW didn't have time to set it up.
But the good part is that he is now responsible for the entire debt.

My heart goes out to her and her children. It is a terribly sad situation.

Jono posted 7/30/2014 15:05 PM

This is a tragic story but, while death may not be a frequent outcome, I do wonder how many WS realize just how close they take their BS to the ‘edge’.

I was born in a hospital. I have always been super fit and able to often go further harder in more extreme conditions than most. Other than being patched up from war injuries, the only other time I ended up in hospital was subsequent to discovering my wife in the throes of a wild PA. My system literally started shutting down. I lost feeling in my extremities and I could feel my mind starting to shut down. My body started going cold, my speech started deteriorating rapidly, my mind started clouding and my cognitive processes started failing. Had it not been for the thought of my sons being left in an awful predicament with an (at that time) uncaring mother I honestly believe that I would indeed have shut down permanently. I have never been that close to the edge before!

WS see the emotional outbursts, the anguish, the loss of direction, the pain – but I am not sure they see the full impact of the devastation they unleash. That mental pain is unlike any other – it knows no bounds. While both the WS and BS face different challenges in healing, the BS is often left deeply scarred. We heal, we find joy and pleasure again, but we are never the same!

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