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yme32313 posted 7/30/2014 14:46 PM

I honestly can say that I never thought I was going to be where I am today. I thought my world had ended when I found out all the little secrets that he did before we got married. I was crushed, felt duped, and was really betrayed on what had happen.

But after my emotional rollercoaster and constantly crying. I decided that I wanted to fix my marriage and have the commitment start from the day we were married and no longer look back at the past.

I did counseling which helped A LOT. Communicated more with my family and friends. Made him be completely transparent. I have all his information and he has mine. He has a no contact order with any of his exes. We are communicating more and I am finally putting my foot down and being more stern than I did while we were dating and I did all of this for ME!!! Yes I out myself before him and I had never done that!

I'm writing this to let everyone know if you really want to R then work at it TOGETHER and if it happens again, then leave. If this occurs one more time, I know I can't and won't handle this all over again. Then I'd be done.

Also, I'm here to help anyone who just needs someone to talk to. But I will never tell you what you should do, because that is all up to you.....

THANK YOU TO ALL!!! This is site is for you all to know that you are not alone and someone has dealt with the same thing you are going through. Let's all help and support each other.

I'm forever thankful to you SI for all you have done to me.

p.s. I still have my triggers but I do get pass them.

Trying2LoveAgain posted 7/30/2014 16:46 PM

I'm so glad to hear you are doing well a year later. This is certainly encouragement for all of us! Thank you for sharing this & I hope things only continue to get better & better each year!

yme32313 posted 7/30/2014 16:51 PM

Yes! It has been taking it day by day but it's going pretty well.

SMSA925 posted 7/31/2014 13:08 PM

It happened before we were married, too. Did IC, got over it, got married, totally forgot about the whole situation. Now here I am again 24 yrs later with the exact same bad actors. Trying R but I really feel I am too old for all this nonsense again

yme32313 posted 7/31/2014 14:36 PM

I agree with you SMSA925 it gets old too fast. That where I said I'm done if it happens again with kids or without. My heart wouldn't be able to take it again.