Because of abusive and intrusive phone calling when we first S, our parenting agreement strictly limits the non custodial calling.
Four years out and things are pretty normalized. Stretch has of course taken all rules and guidelines and ignored when and what he feels like. Surprised anyone?
Yesterday, the boys and I took a day trip to an amusement park. It was a 20 hour day, four hours in the car. Tons of walking. Humid, hot, roller coasters, water park, etc. We were TIRED, sore, a little sunburnt, blisters on the feet, sweaty. Even after the very long day, everyone needed a shower when we finally got home.
So....Stretch starts calling just before noon. We were all still sleeping! I said "starts calling." He called my land line four times and my cell phone once between noon and one thirty. He let the phone ring until the answering machine picked up, or it went to voice mail each time but never left a message.
I think this is incredibly rude. No one answers, FOR A FUCKING REASON. You absolutely MUST make contact, write it down. Send it by carrier pigeon. I will give it to the boys when they wake up. Or you know, 21st century and all, leave a message! Think we might not be home? Send a text to my mobile. Contact achieved, first time.
Calling over and over is just demanding to be met on YOUR terms, and I'm sorry, we don't play that game anymore.
***update***
What did he want? Was there an emergency? Was he concerned that we didn't get home ok? Was he dying to hear about the boys' fun yesterday? You would think so based on the persistent attempts to reach us....
Turns out it was about some cats. His exact words?
I looked at the cats today.
They immediately attacked me.
I like them.
So many things to say here....
anyone want to play?
.... sigh. I said:
I will have the boys call tonight.