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OnceWasEnough (original poster member #29991) posted at 6:39 AM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
I have survived two stretches of infidelity on behalf of my WH, and I just barely made it through with my sanity. Now two weeks after my beautiful daughter marries, she becomes deathly ill and is diagnosed with Hodgkin Lymphoma. Why, why?
Please pray for her. Please add her to your prayer chain. She needs all the positive thoughts coming her way as possible in the upcoming weeks as she continues to battle the horrible pain she has been in and the Chemotherapy yet to come. Her name is Randi. Picture her here as you pray for her survival.
Thank you so much!
BS-53, WH-56, M-almost 35yrs, 2 grown DD's, DD#1-OW#1 1988, DD#2,3,4,5,6,7,8-OW#2 9/10, 10/10, 12/11, 8/12, 10/12, 12/12, 2/13 Just too many to matter anymore.
GotPlayed ( member #41294) posted at 7:45 AM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
Praying for her. My then-teenage niece fought a long, two year battle with cancer - and she won! So happy thoughts and good vibes from your neighbor state to the South.
Chemo is a real pain. Books, video games and if she can laugh, comedy shows. There's something about laughter that makes the immune system kick back in.
Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
XBH and healing. D final March 2016
Her: Doesn't matter anymore.
DS13 Severe SN. DD11 Awesome
Flourgirl ( member #40937) posted at 8:09 AM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
My friend beat that 3 years ago. Sending prayers to your beautiful girl.
BS me 39
WH him 40
Dd 7/1/13. TT 7/22/13
SAHM with 4 wonderful kids
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 12:23 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
(((Once & DD)))
Saying prayers. Sending good thoughts and big hugs.
zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 12:38 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
Prayers for your dd.
Hugs and strength for you both.
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
Lucky2HaveMe ( member #13333) posted at 12:59 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
Oh I am so sorry! My dd just got married and I cannot fathom a worse way to begin a new life.
Prayers being sent for healing, patience, and guidance as you all navigate this course.
Love isn't what you say, it's what you do.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:37 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
Oh Once, I'm so sorry. What a beautiful girl.
I will keep her in my thoughts and picture her healthy and whole again.
(((hugs)))
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 3:18 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
Randi is lovely, and will be in my prayers. She can win this battle--she will. But damn, life is unfair---and needs to stop lobbing balls at your head.
Millions of hugs to you.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
yewtree ( member #16671) posted at 3:38 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
Dear Once,
23 years ago this month, my exh was diagnosed with Hodgkins. He was given a 20% chance of living.... and after 10 mos of grueling chemo, he made it!
If you need a rainbow in this, Hodgkins is very treatable. .
Your beautiful daughter will get through this with prayer, laughter, love and support from her family.
Be good to yourself and your son in law, being a caregiver is hard work!
My kids were 5 and 8 at the time, I was terrified. That was the beginning of so many painful journeys for us, but we all made it.
Blessings to your baby girl, hopefully this is a distant memory in her lifetime!
Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)
Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 - No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 3:54 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
Adding prayers. Also have a friend that beat this!
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
Charity411 ( member #41033) posted at 4:01 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
Prayers are heading your way right now.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 5:47 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
As a fellow mom with a beautiful daughter, I can only imagine the immense worry and pain you are going through.
As a medical professional I want to assure you that even though she has a rough road ahead, this is totally treatable, and beatable.
Keep positive, and strong. You have the power of 40K people pulling for you here.
(((and strength))))
Also----If you work, and are planning on being a support for her, driving, helping at home etc. please please please get FMLA paperwork filled out sooner than later. This will help you and protect you should need to drop everything and be at her side.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 5:59 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
What a lovely picture. I will keep her close in my thoughts as she fights this battle.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 7:12 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
Prayers of healing for your beautiful DD.
Prayers of strength to you and her new H. Caring for a patient with cancer can be almost as grueling as the treatments are for the patient.
I don't know how much day to day care you'll be involved with but if you want any hints, tips or just want a shoulder to lean on you can PM me. I just went thru non-Hodgkins lymphoma with FWSO. He was in treatment for 3 years. He won his battle and I know your DD will too.
ETA: clarification
[This message edited by jrc1963 at 1:31 PM, July 31st (Thursday)]
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
neverdidithink ( member #40568) posted at 7:18 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
Prayers for your daughter and the friends and family who will see her through this.
BS, 57
M 13 years
second marriage, second WH
4 kids in their 20s
cantbelieve ( member #22028) posted at 8:52 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
Sending prayers for your daughter and her doctors.
Me: BS (61)
Him: WS (61)
LTA 4 years with co-worker
DS(30)
DD(26)
DD(23)
Married 32 years
D-day1 5/08
D-day2 11/08
Status: 6 yrs and wondering if I'll ever be truly happy again
OnceWasEnough (original poster member #29991) posted at 7:37 AM on Friday, August 1st, 2014
Thank you everyone for your prayers and support, they are greatly appreciated. Final diagnosis from Randi's Oncologist today - Stage III Hodgkin Lymphoma, nodular sclerosis type. Chemo begins on Wednesday and will continue every two weeks for the next 4 - 6 months.
Our family is banding together for support and have already begun planning teams for an upcoming Race for the Cure.
We're in this one for all and all for one.
BS-53, WH-56, M-almost 35yrs, 2 grown DD's, DD#1-OW#1 1988, DD#2,3,4,5,6,7,8-OW#2 9/10, 10/10, 12/11, 8/12, 10/12, 12/12, 2/13 Just too many to matter anymore.
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 8:19 PM on Friday, August 1st, 2014
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 1:36 AM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014
Adding Randi to my prayer group.
And sending strength to your family.
((((((Once))))))
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 2:05 AM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
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