Trying desperately to keep composure. He called and left a message saying he wanted to come by and get some things.
Then he had the nerve to be mad because I told my sister in law (who I am friends with) that he had moved in with the OW. He was furious I had told her since she told his brother.
I am so mad and well you know.
Dumping them on his car would sure feel good, but unless his car is parked all by its little lonesome, other innocent cars and other property will share in the debris pile and you don't want to piss anyone else off - just your H.
I know how you feel!! (((Blindsided81)))
I am trying desperately to better than them but how much does he want from me. He's already taken everything I cared about.
OW - multiple, just found out about ALL of them, Husband coming out of years of fog due to multiple childhood and military events.
Hopeful but cautious
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Don't create drama at his place of work - that won't help anyone. You can put his stuff in garbage bags and leave them by your door - that's fine. But keep work out of it.
As for his being angry for your telling his sister - he has got to be kidding. You have the right to tell anyone you want to tell. His plan was to lie to his family - more lying is not the answer. He can't hide from his choices.
Don't let your anger overwhelm you. You have every right - but it won't help you. Go out for a run - work out, direct that anger to something positive. Don't yell at him, the kids.....don't let yourself turn into someone you can't live with.
hefTy bags, front yard, tell the neighbors why.
Again, you're not doing it to keep him out, you're doing it because the previous licks broke
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your min
damn, I'm sorry, but I am just pissed off at this self entitled jerk.
I am so so sorry that you are in this situation.
strength
I do not think it unreasonable to put allhis shit in hefty bags, and set them on the lawn, and perhaps turn the sprinklers on..... That would be awesome.....
Honestly you have to have some semblance of cooperation with this douchebag, so just keep in mind actions have consquences, and try to take the high road as much as possible. It will help you in the long run.
Oh but it is perfectly reasonable to dream, and wish horrific things for him.
Busy street....I can't image how humiliating it had to be for that man to be picking up his belongings while people drove by laughing and honking....
And your spouse is worried about your sister-in-law???
Asshole.
Too bad if he is mad that you told his sister and now his brother knows. The truth. He was planning on lying.
Big hugs. Stay strong. I felt immediately better once I purged all of my ex's crap from the house. I hope it does the same for you.
I know you have seen a PI, but you also need to see an attorney, if you haven't already done so. ASAP!
Get control over your money asap - whatever is legal - do it now. Also, run a credit report to make sure he hasn't opened up any new accounts in your name. If he is beneficiary on any life insurance policies you have on yourself, change the beneficiary asap.
I'm trying to remember how I was scrambling after D day, doing everything I could to protect myself financially, as well as emotionally.
He is not the man you married. I think you have accepted that. The emotional fallout is bad, but anything you do to protect yourself now is going to really help bolster your mood. He is thinking only of himself. You need to do the same.
Others may have some very good advice on things to do to get your ducks in a row. If I was you, I'd spend the time right now in protecting yourself financially, and then pack up his stuff. He can wait until you are ready.
He can have his gf do his laundry if he needs clean undies.
I'm so sorry!
It's possible at some point in the future there you could face a judge during the divorce. Don't give your asshole husband any ammo he can use against you. Stay away from his work.
Absolutely trash bag everything and leave the bags outside for him to pick up. Don't answer the phone or the door while he's there.
Ignore his bitching about who knows what. He doesn't have a say in what you do anymore.
Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson
Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.
