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I have been thinking about the whole NC thing. WH had agreed to let the OW know that there will be NC but I sort of intervened very shortly after I asked him for the NC in a very mean, name-calling message to her letting her know how I felt about her. She couldn't handle the drama that I was creating so she said "could you please just let me exit both of your lives". I told WH what she said and he said "I'd LOVE that". Now my issue is, I'm wondering since I sort of forced the NC and didn't let him end it with her, should I be worried? I am just so afraid that he'll try to reach out to her again if he's feeling lonely or if he thinks him and I might not make it. I'm also thinking that since I'm the one who confronted him about his A and he obviously had no intentions of stopping it any time soon, is that room for disaster? I guess I look at my own EA. I felt extremely guilty in what I was doing so I ended it. I told my BH about it about 4 or 5 months after I ended it. I had given myself time to get over it, etc. WH didn't have time to end it himself since I found out about it.

Does anyone else have experience with something like this? After reading lots on SI, I see that many people break NC. Is NC broken mainly because the WS didn't end it on their terms?

My WH didn't do the NC letter either. He just dumped her. I am the one who told her to leave him alone. I think if they are going to keep in contact with the OW they will do it no matter who sent the NC message. Him sending it is no guarantee or you sending it doesn't mean he will be in contact with her.

Agree with above. No formal nc either. I actually got her to call me after I had the police remove him from my home. I found his secret email account and responded to one of her slutty emails. Told her she'd better call me and she did. Husband saw her a few days later at work and she asked him if he loved me, he said yes, and she said he lied to her and good thing she wasn't attached to him. Wtf?!??! Sleeping with him but not attached. What a love story. And this woman is HUGE. She did answer my questions by text over the next week. She isn't all bad. Just willing to sleep with a married guy wanting to believe we were separating. Thst was news to me! Apparently their sex life sucked because he couldn't stay "operable" with the med he was taking. That also breaks my heart (sarcasm). I just worry now that he may go back to prove it was the meds. I think I manage to worry about everything. I'm tired too..,

[This message edited by BlueBlueEyes at 7:32 PM, July 31st (Thursday)]

Yes I'm a big worrier too. So nice how we have to be put through this, isn't it?