I have been thinking about the whole NC thing. WH had agreed to let the OW know that there will be NC but I sort of intervened very shortly after I asked him for the NC in a very mean, name-calling message to her letting her know how I felt about her. She couldn't handle the drama that I was creating so she said "could you please just let me exit both of your lives". I told WH what she said and he said "I'd LOVE that". Now my issue is, I'm wondering since I sort of forced the NC and didn't let him end it with her, should I be worried? I am just so afraid that he'll try to reach out to her again if he's feeling lonely or if he thinks him and I might not make it. I'm also thinking that since I'm the one who confronted him about his A and he obviously had no intentions of stopping it any time soon, is that room for disaster? I guess I look at my own EA. I felt extremely guilty in what I was doing so I ended it. I told my BH about it about 4 or 5 months after I ended it. I had given myself time to get over it, etc. WH didn't have time to end it himself since I found out about it.
Does anyone else have experience with something like this? After reading lots on SI, I see that many people break NC. Is NC broken mainly because the WS didn't end it on their terms?