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Topic: Difference between the 2 R's

Reallyscared
♀ 43653
Member # 43653

Posted: 5:13 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014

What exactly is the difference between the two R's? I've chosen to stay...I am trying to accept that this is our new normal...we don't fight...there is a lot of love.

But I don't know if we are in recovery or reconciliation...how do I know where we are. You all seem so sure!

Me: 40
Him: 40, ONS
DD: Nov, 2012
Married 17 years, together 20.
Reconciling
"Sometimes we are taken into troubled waters, not to drown, but to be cleansed"

Posts: 86 | Registered: Jun 2014

Morhurt
♀ 40166
Member # 40166

Posted: 8:20 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014

I've never considered this question before but perhaps recovery is personal and reconciliation is marital. Does that make sense? You can (and will) recover no matter what, but reconciliation is a choice you both have to make. :)

Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 1127 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada

Reallyscared
♀ 43653
Member # 43653

Posted: 9:24 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014

I just hear so many people say that they are reconciled but not fully recovered or the other way around...

It's confusing to me...but what you said made sense. I guess we are reconciling and recovering still. Just so difficult to figure out just what stage we're in.

Giving time time is proving to be difficult...

Hugs and thanks!

[This message edited by Reallyscared at 9:25 PM, July 31st (Thursday)]

Me: 40
Him: 40, ONS
DD: Nov, 2012
Married 17 years, together 20.
Reconciling
"Sometimes we are taken into troubled waters, not to drown, but to be cleansed"

Posts: 86 | Registered: Jun 2014

Topic Posts: 3

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