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Topic: My heart vs my head

dana1234
♀ 40952
Member # 40952

Posted: 5:32 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014

I'm never going to get over my husband's affair! But I still love him😞 I feel strongly that the only justice is for him to loose me and the kids?? I have such a war going on inside of me 24/7 and I'm just so tired.....

Me 44 BS
Him 47 WH
Married 19 years, together 25 high school sweethearts
3 Beautiful Children 16,12,12

Posts: 168 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: New Jersey

million tears
♀ 24416
Member # 24416

Posted: 5:52 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014

I felt the same way. I loved my WH but at the same time I wanted to punish him. If your WH is truly remorseful he will punish himself. Maybe try a separation first so you can have breathing room and can decide what you really want.

2 year LTA-double betrayal, D-day 1-26-2009 and many months of TT.

Married 27 years. Together 29.

3 children 24, 21, 14

OW sex addict and romance addict according to MC. WH just your ordinary asshole.

Posts: 1673 | Registered: Jun 2009

Chinadoll30
♀ 43131
Member # 43131

Posted: 7:04 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014

I talk about this war with my therapist a lot. What has helped me is not to focus on what he deserves. We all know what he deserves. A bathtub full of razor blades and full of lemon juice. But me? I deserve happiness. I deserve devotion. I deserve to fulfill my dreams. And currently he's in them. It could change at any time, but it helps me to focus on what I want, not what he deserves.

"We must see all scars as beauty. Okay? This will be our secret. Because take it from me, a scar does not form on the dying. A scar means 'I survived'." -Chris Cleave

Posts: 372 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Philadelphia

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