SurvivingInfidelity.com Forum Archives

Sosad77 posted 7/31/2014 19:02 PM

Help ,I don't know what to do. I'm separated now 15 days after d-day , I've got very good advise so far .
I've tried the NC... Approach this is harder than I thought. I have not spoke to WS since DDay but texting when we communicate, yet I donot have any answers at all. I fell I need to know the truth. I know time is on my side , but when do I get the truth ?... Should I force the issue ? ...... Is it better that I stay with NC for now and wait longer or will this just be easier for WS just not haveing to face reality? I'm so lost? Thanks for the support . I never knew there was a site like this with so many innocent people have there heart torn apart by the ones that are supposed to love us.

atreides posted 7/31/2014 20:43 PM

I am trying to understand, why the separation? Why not set an ultimatum to keep the marriage that she cheated on. Set your rules and guidelines that she needs to accept to keep you.

In my opinion, separation almost never solves anything as with reconciliation or getting the WS to see the error of their ways... it can in specific situations but not many.

[This message edited by atreides at 8:45 PM, July 31st (Thursday)]

jb3199 posted 7/31/2014 21:04 PM

I posted to this response on your other thread.

It will probably be easier if you stay with one thread, while you are working through this.

Remember---ask yourself what YOU want first, then go about obtaining that goal. We can help you on whichever path you choose.