Me: BW. 40's
He was served D papers today while I was at a sports event with my son. When I returned home he wanted to talk.
He wants to avoid using a L because they will be taking money away from our kids. He mentioned we could do a legal separation (so that he can stay on my medical insurance) or even use a mediator. He also mentioned that he would ALLOW me to stay in the house until our kids graduate from HS (would would be in 4 years) and then sell the house or I can buy him out. We each pay half the mortgage (like we always have) but he wouldn't live there.
All sounds nice, huh??
WELL, I feel he is hiding assets. In fact I am pretty sure he is. He has 2 trucks, a motorcycle and a boat (not hidden of course). There is also a safe deposit box that is in his name (I have never seen the contents). And it also talking about getting a different bigger boat.
He runs a cash business, so it can easily be done.
He tried to make me feel guilty/sorry for him by saying we could use the money being spent on lawyers to buy our daughter a car when she gets her license, or we could use the money for our sons schooling. Which I am sure he will use against me if I go the divorce route like I want.
I pay for our medical insurance, I pay for all the household groceries and children's clothes, etc. All while he maintains his fun life style.
In the meantime I am still awaiting the results of my biopsy--which I was told will take another 1-2 weeks since they do further testing on lymph nodes.
Him: WH POS. 40's
2 kids. DD16, DS14
Don't let my user name fool you...I am NOT hopeful for us at ALL!!