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User Topic: 6 months from DDay
♀ 43241
Member # 43241
Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was reflecting on my week, I'm just past my 6 months from my original DDay. It has been a devastating 6 months and it all seems to be moving in fast forward.

However, my mindset is finally good, I've come to accept that WH is not who I thought he was, I never in a million years thought he would be deceitful. I have accepted he might have disconnected a long time ago, wasn't mature enough to find that lasting commitment with me, and a coward to cheat and lie instead of telling me his feelings. This is all on him.

I admit I have things to learn to be a better partner, all around communication and not bring afraid of conflict, and to not be afraid to ask for help to fix what might be wrong. All things I am learning. But I'm proud of who I am, I'm proud to be my kids mother, I am confident I will land on my feet after our D is final.

I finally had my first day without tears this week. I actually had two days now. It feels great to finally have hope for the future. Still scared about how ends will meet, I'm still hunting for a full time job, not sure how to balance kids activities and work. And not sure how to deal with WH as a co parent the rest of our days. But I'm ready to face the challenges.

I have my families support, have reconnected with some wonderful caring friends, and have done a few outings on my own with golf meetup groups. Oh my game is terrible, I think I have to say I'm a beginner again, but I'm doing it.

I'm still reading and learning out here. Thank you SI group for all the Online support. Keep moving forward. Little at a time.

[This message edited by Acer0112 at 8:26 AM, August 1st (Friday)]

D-Day 1/24/14
D-Day2 04/08/14, false R
17yrs married, 23yrs together
Two kids in middle school
Divorced 10/2014

Posts: 203 | Registered: Apr 2014
♂ 41521
Member # 41521
Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So good to hear! Just remember, you've been doing all the hard work and now it is paying off!

What's great is next month, you'll look at where you are now and see even more change. It is a great process!


Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy

“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."

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♀ 42092
Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


That's a TON of progress! Yay you.

Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4324 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thank you for your post. I can relate to your feelings.

Posts: 358 | Registered: May 2014 | From: Hawaii
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