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User Topic: 18 and months won't talk
♂ 43976
Member # 43976
Default  Posted: 1:36 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm 18 months from the last DD. I got months of TT and even new lies. She resisted IT until a month ago. The thing is, I have so much information after reading 200 of their emails that there are still things that don't add up. There are also other things I have asked her to explain such as how her perception of reality could be so skewed on several facts, but she won't talk anymore. She refused a NC letter from the begining by coming up with excuses that are not valid, The total apology I have gotten is "I apologize for the things I've done, I apologize for lying to you". I am not satisfied with any of that and have told her over and over. I confessed and I gave a long detailed apology letter to her for the things that I have done (she would have never found out), answered every question she has asked, imediately and without any TT, lies or distortions. I have done that because that is what I feel is the right thing to do. If I believe that is the right thing for me to do and I have done that, why would she think that I do not expect that from her? Is it time to consider a 180, or time to just move on, this is exhausting! She is a HUGE rug sweeper and has NEVER confessed to anything, she's only been caught.

ME: 58 Madhatter, 1 PA, 6 months(kissing) I ended it, 2006. 1 sexual act with a stranger in a car - w/hands, 2010.
WW: 55 Madhatter, 25 year (1988-2013) PA, 3 separate affairs, same OM). 8 year, 2005-2013, EA with 1st boyfriend/lover

Posts: 311 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Ohio
♀ 34353
Member # 34353
Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

so she is showing you who she is and just what you mean to her. Believe her. She sounds like she isn't interested in doing any work towards R so why are you still with her?

Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.

Posts: 1849 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
♂ 29048
Member # 29048
Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Um. Excuse me. She has been in an A for your entire marriage of 32 years? And, this is the best she can do? I'm in awe that you are considering R. Yes it's time to move on. She is beyond toxic.

Posts: 644 | Registered: Jul 2010
♀ 42581
Member # 42581
Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She's not interested in healing you or your marriage. That's pretty much all you need to know.

DD-March 2010

Posts: 5434 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
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