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JimmyB posted 8/1/2014 13:36 PM

I'm 18 months from the last DD. I got months of TT and even new lies. She resisted IT until a month ago. The thing is, I have so much information after reading 200 of their emails that there are still things that don't add up. There are also other things I have asked her to explain such as how her perception of reality could be so skewed on several facts, but she won't talk anymore. She refused a NC letter from the begining by coming up with excuses that are not valid, The total apology I have gotten is "I apologize for the things I've done, I apologize for lying to you". I am not satisfied with any of that and have told her over and over. I confessed and I gave a long detailed apology letter to her for the things that I have done (she would have never found out), answered every question she has asked, imediately and without any TT, lies or distortions. I have done that because that is what I feel is the right thing to do. If I believe that is the right thing for me to do and I have done that, why would she think that I do not expect that from her? Is it time to consider a 180, or time to just move on, this is exhausting! She is a HUGE rug sweeper and has NEVER confessed to anything, she's only been caught.

jjsr posted 8/1/2014 17:19 PM

so she is showing you who she is and just what you mean to her. Believe her. She sounds like she isn't interested in doing any work towards R so why are you still with her?

longsadstory1952 posted 8/1/2014 22:08 PM

Um. Excuse me. She has been in an A for your entire marriage of 32 years? And, this is the best she can do? I'm in awe that you are considering R. Yes it's time to move on. She is beyond toxic.

BtraydWife posted 8/1/2014 22:18 PM

She's not interested in healing you or your marriage. That's pretty much all you need to know.