My DD called today. Apparently, on a rare night out with her partner last night, she had a bit too much to drink and sent a drunken text to her father.
She couldn't even make sense of what she had written, something about how much she loved him, ramblings about how and when he had hurt her etc.
She said he has been trying to get hold of her all morning.
I asked her why she hadn't spoken to him. She said she really doesn't want to. She doesn't know why she texted him. Then she said - well I can't text my XH can I? (She is with someone new now but still hasn't resolved her issues over her break-up with her XH).We had to break the call then and when I called her back, I was able to say to her that even though there are 101 things I could say, all I would say was if she really doesn't feel ready to talk to her father, then she should text him and say exactly that. It stops him constantly calling and gives her time to think.
For my part, I had to swallow my own feelings and help her the best I could without getting involved. But I really want to. I'm glad we broke when we did.
I hate the fact that I can't do anything to help her. My hands are tied. She is still my baby but I can no longer make her feel like everything will be ok.
But mostly, I hate the fact that one day, she will talk to him and I will have to stand by and hope he doesn't hurt her again.
She is going to IC now and I can only hope that she gets a bit stronger before she attempts to deal with his 'special' fucked-up brand of parenting.
It's funny that he hasn't tried to contact me though all this. He was quick to forward a text to me that she send him months ago saying that she loved him but was still angry with him.
Maybe it's because he knows I would bite his fucking head off this time.