[This message edited by BigMo3516 at 5:58 PM, August 1st (Friday)]
Next time you hear from someone that she said that, correct them. Not spitting it out in anger, just stating that no, I am not an alcoholic wife beater. She was sleeping with another man, and we broke up because I was not ok having 3 in my marriage. Just smile, and change the subject. You don't have to run her into the ground, just state the truth.
I don't see it as leaving the high road to set the record straight when someone is telling lies about your character. Others may disagree with me, but that's the way I see it.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
"I would never lay a hand on her. I have no idea how contagious she is."
The only response you have to her is no response. Try not to be in any situation with her where there is need for her to say see things to you. Absolutely avoid all face to face with her, and if you get trapped in her presence make sure to back off (I sat down away from her in the early going) so that you can't be accused of assaulting her (closeness in an aggressive way can be an assault). But avoiding face to face is your best bet.