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Just received an email

"I will miss many things about you but I won't miss your lies"

I so want to respond, I am fighting myself to not respond. So here are my choices that I will not say to him.

1. At least you have something to miss
2. Yes, I lied, I lied about my girlfriends, I lied about my past, I lied about my drug use, I lied about who I am inside, I lied about trying to R with you, I lied in MC, I lied in IC, well no, that was you not me
3. I will not miss you at all, there is nothing to miss.
4. Cheaters handbook, blameshifting, easing your guilt by creating faults in your betrayed spouse, helps you look in the mirror.

I will not send any of these but damn do I want to!

I guess I didn't have to wait long for the shift, here it comes and if he is drinking look out! He can be corrosive.

Nope. You are correct, Crickets to that bait. Even though it smells really good!

But no.

You forgot my favorite.

1. Fuck off.

Thank you Nekorb, you made me laugh!

In a kind of sick twisted way, I almost wish he would keep them coming, just for tonight.

It helps me to remember all those nights when he called me names, attacked my character, it validates my thoughts and feelings, as if I need more validation!

It just reminds me of who he really is under the mask of "kindness". It really is a mask, he is not kind, he is not nice, only when there are witnesses. This man, if you could call him that, fucked with my mind, fucked with my heart.

Last week he sent me a text, "I hope that you suffer as much for the pain that you caused me as I suffer".

Holy shit! That is remorse at it's finest!!! In the twilight zone.

I texted my best friend about the email, I love this man, I have known him since I was 11. To have a friend for that many years is such a gift, he knows me and I know him. I really do have so much to be grateful for.

His reply to me, "He just wants to bug you. Ignore him. He is evil. You are GOOD!!!You are kind. You are thoughtful, you are loving. You create order and beauty around you. You make me happy whenever I think of you. You share. You care.

I could go on but I am walking the dog. Ignore that sick person. He still wants to hurt you.

Those are words from a friend, someone that has known me my whole life, my good and my bad. Those are words from a friend that loves me.

That is what I need in my life, people like him, that is what we all need in our lives.

This is what I wish for everyone here, a friend that loves you and can support you, a friend that knows you and can remind you of how fucking awesome you really are. A friend to help keep you strong.

It's the dog nipping at your heels one last time because he knows it's almost over.

You can set up a rule on your email system to delete his messages, or mark them read and file then somewhere. That way you only get the emails when you choose to see them (though if there's no kids or finances to discuss, might as well auto delete them).

Your friend is right. You deserve peace. You don't have to put up with harassment

Home stretch.