Topic: I recently read that when a man
Member # 37629
| Posted: 7:31 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014|
Finds his wife has cheated they will divorce within a year. A woman will divorce 5 years after dd. (these were averages).
Does that sound about right?
PA 22 yrs ago
Started as EA for 2 yrs then ONS CORRECTION Started as an EA for 8 years
Posts: 215 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: US
Member # 15162
| Posted: 7:58 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014|
FBH - 45
FWW - 46 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 10 & 15
The people you do your life with shape the life you live
Posts: 45929 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
Member # 16024
| Posted: 8:00 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014|
What he said.^^^^^
“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of “you’re not alone.” ~ Brene Brown
Posts: 54937 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 42354
| Posted: 8:02 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014|
I agree with these ^^^ two.
Me- BS 44
Him- FWH 44
Married 20 years, Together 27
D Day- 7 Sept 2013
Posts: 333 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Australia
Member # 32810
| Posted: 2:35 AM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2014|
I only have anecdotal evidence from this specific forum, but I guess my general impression is that men are actually more likely to stay. Maybe I am assuming that based on the number of women in the S/D forum? But there may be more women on the site, or women may be more active posters, or I may notice my own gender and follow their stories more closely on a subconscious and unintentional level. There are a lot of explanations.
Why are the averages important to you?
Even when every other story you read here feels familiar, each situation and each pair of people is unique - there are rarely generalizations or averages that can help us heal or move forward.
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"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Posts: 14440 | Registered: Jul 2011
Member # 34827
| Posted: 2:50 AM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2014|
On SI, I don't think so but people I know IRL, the men D sooner than the women. However those women WS, left for the om.
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Posts: 5737 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 42867
| Posted: 5:44 AM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2014|
I suspect that SI isn't a true sample - for example many would simply divorce wihouth reaching out for online support. However those 1y and 5y numbers make no sense.
No matter how painful, life either adapts or it dies.
BH (Me) 49
D-Day Mar 19, 2014
1 year passionate EA/PA, ended by me on d-day.
Attempting to R
Posts: 446 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: PNW
Member # 26970
| Posted: 7:50 AM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2014|
..I guess my take is..'don't believe everything you read!"..
trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Married 45 yrs (together 49)
18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer.
. died from a brain tumor@57
Posts: 4879 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Ontario Canada
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