he has agreed to only see her 1 weekend a month but he emails n calls her several times a day
Are you fucking kidding me?
Do you see what you just wrote? your husband has outlined for you the affair that he is going to continue to have and you've agreed to some parameters within which it can occur.
You need to get out of this situation.
No more sex.
And NO, you do not have to stay in this relationship because of your grandson. Your WH is going to have to support you in some fashion.
You need an attorney. Yesterday. If you don't have the resources, call a local domestic violence shelter and ask them for help and suggestions.
Do not take this abuse or disrespect for another minute. You feel used because you are being used.
Only you can stop it.
You can do it.
We are here to support you.
Take control, Kelly.
P.s. It's not "strange",i t's straight from the unremorseful cheater's handbook. They all do it.
[This message edited by nekorb at 9:44 PM, August 1st (Friday)]