You'll all be ok, even though it doesn't seem like it now.
Believe it or not, a time will come in your lives when this chapter will seem far off. The pain will likely remain but be dim and fleeting.
Triggers will remain but be very light and you may find your selves surprised at how quickly the pain they bring is gone and you are moving on in your heads.
Someday too, the other person won't feel so major-I don't want to say important-but they won't be a big deal either.
It really helped me to stop paying any attention to Perv-X-and get on with my own life in my head.
ETA a counselor told me that a turning point in healing was when I realized that the "Monkey in the Middle"-the WS-was at fault and OW also a victim, she said it was a really big deal and you are doing that here. That is no small feat. Yay!
This is my wish for all of you, as my abandoned father wished for me before it started happening, as he held my hand when we drove off on the last day I owned my house.
[This message edited by Ashland13 at 6:31 PM, August 3rd (Sunday)]
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.