I just have to put this here so I can sound off and move on. He's not worth the air I breathe, but I won't deny that his selfishness when it comes to our kids still angers me.
A few weeks ago, ex-cheater and I had a little email correspondence about our children's dental visit. Poor, downtrodden ex was dismayed to see how much it cost for three cleanings, some x-rays, and three checkups (I pay 50% of that, so it cost me just as much). He felt that I needed to be more savvy and shop around, and he wanted our kids to see his much cheaper dentist the next town over. I told him that it was up to him to make all of the arrangements if that's what he wanted, and he did. Fine. That was that. I hope his dentist doesn't turn out to be a quack, so that remains to be seen.
Anyway, the ex also asked me a while ago if I could keep the kids during his usual weekly overnight this past week because he'd be out of town. I kept the kids, and they just came back from their weekend visitation with him. Guess where he was when he was out of town? BERMUDA (for at least one leg of the trip-- a friend of mine ran into him in Boston and told me!). Gosh, I'm sure that was a cheap trip. Knowing my ex, they stayed in what was probably one of the nicest places there; he never spared any expense when it came to traveling to places that he wanted to visit.
I don't know why I find it so amazing that he's crapping his pants over a dental bill but happily traveling for a week to an exotic location (probably to celebrate their one-year wedding cheaterversary). It pisses me off to know that I am going to have to deal with this every time there's some kid expense he doesn't like, and then I'll hear from the kids about some flashy expense he happily made on himself and his whore (and this isn't the first thing he's done-- there have been a bunch of other things). I'm sure he's champing at the bit at the thought of getting CS lowered if he can at the three-year mark.
I'm all for being responsible and being careful with expenses, but I don't preach about that when I think a "non-fun" bill is too high and then run off and take a luxury vacation. I'm pretty careful about my money in every area of my life; I don't shortchange my children so that I can indulge myself.
Thanks. If anyone understands this garbage, it's all of you. Only 12 years left!