[This message edited by kra127 at 9:27 PM, August 3rd (Sunday)]
[This message edited by hurtbs at 4:51 PM, August 4th (Monday)]
"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid
I find it quite hurtful that some of my family remains friends with Trac-Fone. In their defense, he was around for all of my nieces' and nephews' entire lives, and they don't all know what happened. They don't know he's a PD fraud, either. (One sister is an ostrich; her kids don't know their own father cheated either). Still, it stings. He doesn't care about them but still gets their ego kibbles. Blah.
Thankfully I can't see any of it. I just get the occasional nauseating report.
I will not talk to my X's mother and father, but I was never friends with them on FB anyway.
Every time you post on facebook, you have a little box that says friends... you can click it and custom who sees that post.
It's really helped me clarify some issues -- ie they get to read my side of somethings that I know my XWH is lying about. I make it kinda bland, for instance, I posted how nice it was to have 2 very flexible jobs. That I go to work at 6 am, get to come home at lunch and hang out with my teen sons til 4 then go to the other job til 8. Reason? XWH told his family I work all the time and I'm never home and he needed to try to get custody. His parents have $$$$ and I wanted them to at least have the idea their son might be b.s.ing them....
If you want to post something you don't want them to see, you can custom that post, too.
I'm glad I kept it this way. I'll probably unfriend them later, when the kids are grown and I don't have to worry about XWH getting custody.
me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
"Cheating is so rampant it has become a sign of how mentally unwell and immature our society is".
It's basically what I use FB for anyway, keeping in touch with long distance friends and relatives. I look at it as the public face of my family, a year-round Christmas letter.
However, if the ILs ever turn on me, they're gone. Blocked, not just unfriended.
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.
I defriended one of 'our' friends that has known about the A as long as it probably started - I just can't deal with him accepting OW and on trips with 'them' - I wish he slapped WH up side the head and told him to call me - not to sneak around for 4 months lying and fing someone else.
Ahhh, FB, I don't post much on it, but it's great for reunions and to see how distant family is doing. I have already changed my name - no one said anything - strange, or not. I just think it makes me more sad to see all the happy families and anniversaries so I try to avoid it these days.
I think the best policy is to *never* post anything to any social media site that you don't want the world to see. Anybody can share what they can see.
Status - In D.
I have also blocked OW and her children, and have my settings to friends. I check it off just to be sure FB hasn't changed anything.
As of today, one of WH's brothers and his wife, WH's cousin's wife, another of WH's cousins, and 2 friends have added her, another person I know but didnt have as a friend added her too so I wont be adding him
WH's other sister in law said that OW had sent her a friend request, I made it clear that if she adds her, she will be deleted from mine, and then after mentioning it to ds, and having him tell her exactly how he feels, she messaged him back and said that he and dd mean more to her than OW does, so that's good that she cares about us, obviously more that those other people do
We live in a very small town so EVERYONE knew WH cheated on me to be with this woman, but didnt have enough respect for me or our kids to reject the friend request from her, or not send her one
Idiots, so glad Im done with them!!