I have been trying to get D'ed as quickly as possible and have tried to remain as reasonable as possible. X has held it up and for one of the main issues, her life insurance, she has argued that because of my financial mismanagement during the M, I should not be sole trustee to the insurance on behalf of my kids.
So I have made a request to see all of her business account statements going back four years, the length of her A. I originally didn't ask for these because I didn't really care about it....the speed of D was more important to me. But now we'll see who has financially mismanaged things. I know of one night out with her AP that was paid with money that should have come to the family. We'll see how many more there are. She has refused to give these up without a formal request from my lawyer, so maybe it is juicier than I had thought? We'll see.