OW has harassed me and stalked me online for over a year. It doesn't happen so much now as I deleted my accounts, including my FB account which she hacked for a second time a few months ago. Every time the affair went underground it was by watching what she did in a few hidden places online that led me to discover NC had been broken. I still regularly check on her to confirm that NC is being maintained. The public profiles, as expected, have multiple taunts to try and get a reaction from me (I have never replied to any of her messages or had any form of contact with her), in the hidden places she is clearly still totally obsessed with WH and recently posted that "she is never going to give up until he divorces the slut" (in the context of - never going to give up harassing me.)
Due to my employment I need to make a visible online profile and I am certain that is going to open up a whole load of abuse from her. If this happens again (as I expect it will) would it be too late to contact the BFF and let him know about the affair last year and that his girlfriend is still obsessed with a married man or would it be best to just try and ignore? I really don't know what the best way forward is and any advice would be very much appreciated
And sometimes it seems that when OW are continually obsessed, it's not because they are delusional, it's because they are still in contact with the wayward.
If she's not letting him go, maybe he's not given her a reason to.
There are millions of ways they could go underground. My ex fucker used the chat feature on a fucking scrabble game on his phone to go underground. Waywards can be some sneaky fuckers.
I would tell the boyfriend ASAP. I think it gives your relationship a better chance as well..
Do not warn your WS, do not warn OW.
Do not send it thru fb, email, etc because most BS are trusting people and they have the link right on their phone to their email and f/b.....
But yes, please tell him today. Wouldnt' you want to know?
