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User Topic: IC
soccermom9
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, August 5th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I went to IC and left feeling terrible! The counselor was an advanced age and completely at a loss for helping me deal with my WH who slept with women in massage parlors. I must find another counselor! Are there questions I can ask before going to help avoid this again?


Me: 44
WH: 43
Dday: 6-20-14
He admitted to drunken sex at massage parlor!
Attempting reconciliation

Posts: 66 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Kentucky
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, August 5th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can seek out counselors with experience in dealing with infidelity.

The biggest help to an IC is knowing what you want to address and get out of IC. That will allow the IC to focus and not be distracted.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 53339 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 12:49 AM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with MovingUpward on finding an IC that is experienced in infidelity. That was one of the first questions I asked my IC before visiting her.

If this IC isn't cutting it for you, there is no sense in wasting your time with him. Time to find another one. Shop around a bit, maybe email them or talk to them on the phone ahead of time. Best of luck to you.


There will come a time, you'll see, with no more tears. And love will not break your heart, but dismiss your fears.

Posts: 8292 | Registered: Dec 2010
NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 6:27 AM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What they said! And make sure you get an interview with your counselor before you start to see them, that way you can find out if they are equipped to deal with the issue you are coming in for.


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 15550 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
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