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User Topic: the day the music died
♀ 42776
Member # 42776
Default  Posted: 9:43 PM, August 5th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was reading the topics on songs that tell our stories. It seems like there is no getting away from it. As I went from worried to terrified to heartbroken to angry etc etc there was always a song on the radio singing my story. Or his. We were a very musical couple and were passionate about the same bands, and singers. There is so so much I can't listen to... it either makes me sad or I feel a weird disconnect to something I loved so much (sound familiar?).
So I trotted out my old CDs, you know, from before in my case, teenager-land. That worked for awhile but now I've slid into mostly silence. It's easy in my car because the radio's kinda funky. But at work I find myself storming in the back and turning off the radio. And that works I think. Except when I'm shopping and the radio is playin' our song(s). OOf. Tell me I'll love music again!
((i heard he sang a good song,
i heard he had a style,
and so i came to see him,
to listen for a while,
and there he was this young boy,
a stranger to my eyes,
strummin my pain with his fingers,
singin my life with his words,
killing me softly with his song,
killing me softly with his song,
tellin my whole life,
with his words,
killing me softly,with his song))

[This message edited by ItllGetBetter at 9:46 PM, August 5th (Tuesday)]

Gotta work on this bitter-thing...
married 26 years, together 31,childhood sweethearts

2 kids, 18 + 20
divorce is happening - it can't not

june 5th,2015...divorced.

Posts: 345 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: connecticut
♀ 23375
Member # 23375
Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, August 5th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You will love music again.

It took me a while but I sing again now.

The Fugees version of that song is one of my favorites. I have it on my iTunes, in the beginning I would cry as I sang along, now, I OWN it!

A head full of fears has no space for dreams.

Posts: 6564 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Munchkinland
♀ 34941
Member # 34941
Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, August 5th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I understand - especially when so much music ties to memories.

I built a lot of new play lists on spotify. discovered some old favourites and looked up some new artists (or new to me at least)

I kept these going a lot.
At least there is no nasty surprises.

It does shift and ease. I can now listen to some of my Indigo Girls favourites again. It is that old swear word "Time" again.

BS / fWS me 41 (@ DDay)
fWS / BS him 39-BlindFreddy (@DDay)
My DD's 13 Jan 2012 / 29 Jan / 27 Feb (Trickle truth for 5 wks)
His DDay Dec 2003 (details 06/12)
3 ch(6 - 16 at discovery)
remembering "Sunshine on my shoulders"

Posts: 673 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Australia
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