Been 2 weeks since I've been on SI. Today we leave a third world country to head back to the States. Exceptional trip!!!
I finished another Dr Henry Cloud book yesterday.
In this book he talks about the need to reach outside of ourselves in order to grow and change. The Bible also emphasizes reaching out and asking for help from God and others (fellowship).
Dr Cloud makes specific mention of "recovery groups" and "accountability partners" and "authentic friends". Which are the roles you all play in my life's journey.
As my family and I moved and lived in this third world country it occurred to me that, left unto our known ways of living (communicating, shopping, eating, moving about, etc) we would not survive. We HAD to reach out and learn new ways to live. We could not figure this out on our own!
It was uncomfortable. Trying to ask for directions without knowing the language....but recognizing when you are being mocked in a group of locals is easy to recognize! But I had to keep engaging if I were to get what we needed. I learned as I went and the mocking decreased, my confidence increased.
It costs to learn new things. I paid 10 times what I needed to for a ride to town! But I used his service and trusted he would not screw me. I had to take a taxi the next day, had to once again trust a new person...same trip was NOW paid for at the local rate. I learned, my cash flow slowed and my confidence grew.
God sometimes allows us to get into helpless situations in an effort to refine us, grow and mature us. Adultery as part of my life's journey is doing this for me. You all are helping me do the necessary things I need to do....and I am grateful for that. I desired to get out of the pit I was in....and had to reach up for help. It is painful.....but good.
Trip was well worth it. Our girls enjoyed it and jumped right into new experiences. Something to see such pain and joy in this country coexist.
Pain does not equal "no joy". Most of my life I spent avoiding pain......F my CoD pattern! 😊
Pain often is good....it tells us something is wrong and we need to address it.
Sure is nice to have authentic friends who use 2x4's when you need them.
Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. (Proverbs 27:6 NIV)
Sure is nice to have folks support you as you heal! And that is what we mostly did on this humanitarian trip....offered love and support.
God is with us all.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 10:11 PM, August 5th (Tuesday)]