I have been in this hellhole for 10 months now: affair discovery with a COW (who is still there), false R, rediscovery, WH with zero communication abilities, etc, etc.
Yesterday, my DS(19)revealed he knew his dad had an A (could it be b/c we were in separate bedrooms with "How to Help Your Spouse Heal.." on his nightstand?). DS said he told his sister (my stepdaughter, 31).
So, I talked with both of them, then headed to our first MC session (we had gone before, stopped after false R & attended IC).
Talk about a "deer in the headlights"! My WH is beyond devastated. Shell shocked. We haven't talked since he learned THEY knew. But as my son said, "Don't do the crime, if you can't do the time."
I am so sad that it has come to this, and I didn't want the "reveal" to happen this way. I didn't want our children to know any of this, I wanted us to heal and "get better". But WH wasn't doing the work and I was definitely in limbo and on the fence.
On the other hand, I think my WH now knows true pain. The kind of pain I have been through - which may sound a little vengeful. Of course, he didn't want his children to lose respect for him.
The next few days should be very interesting.