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User Topic: Lost ground
HurtingandLost
♂ 29322
Member # 29322
Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Against my better judgement, I allowed myself to get sucked into a conversation with STBX last night, which changes nothing and just allowed me to hear more of how her issues are my fault, blah blah blah. A lot of "I know this is my issue BUT....." type shit.

She's still in the cloud 9 fog not seeing ANY damage from or consequences for her actions. After all, OM and her didn't start their "relationship" until AFTER she screamed at me that she wanted a divorce....on the same day. Never mind that 5 weeks later there still hasn't been any paperwork filed (until the second house closes).

Two steps forward one step back still equals one step forward. In escrow on second house should close within 15-20 days. An additional week for electrical, roof, and siding. 10 seconds from the last roofing nail / siding staple for me to begin unloading her shit in her driveway.

Then freedom my friends. And a trip to the pound to find a LOYAL companion.

[This message edited by HurtingandLost at 8:47 AM, August 6th (Wednesday)]


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 1032 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
deena
♀ 27275
Member # 27275
Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am glad to see that you realize it is not good judgement to engage in a conversation with her.
It will be nice when you two don't have a reason to communicate.
I hope that will feel like a peaceful time for you.
Maybe before the pound trip you can take a nice vacation get away for a week or two. Even if you don't go far.
You deserve a break from all of this, some down time.


Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.


Posts: 3195 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Canada
HurtingandLost
♂ 29322
Member # 29322
Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd love to but between the kids, work, school, etc., and the fact that I just put every penny I have into buying a second home for the kids, there's no time or money for a vacation in the foreseeable future.

Beginning in September the kids will start school and the week on week off schedule will begin. That down time from her and the kids should provide some much needed relaxation.


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 1032 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
betrayedpregnant
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Member # 43304
Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, August 11th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I found it really funny how all of us here have been blamed for their doing everything

Posts: 309 | Registered: May 2014 | From: Hawaii
bigskyblues
♂ 36759
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Default  Posted: 3:43 AM, August 12th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This made me laugh, sad but true

And a trip to the pound to find a LOYAL companion

I lucked out and have met a lady with two loyal dogs and life is really good, wishing you the same!

BSB


BH 50s
xWW 50s

Dday1 7-2012
Dday2 8-2012
Divorce 9-2012

4 kids all adults.

Married 22+ years.

I have moved on and life is good!


Posts: 277 | Registered: Sep 2012
HurtingandLost
♂ 29322
Member # 29322
Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, August 12th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BSB - Sounds like I might be onto something after all then! Congrats!


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 1032 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
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