Had the urge a while ago to text OM and let him know what she's been doing on this side of the fence. How they're just friends and apparently we're still fuck buddies. How despite her not wearing the ring no paperwork has been filed.
Couple of things "clicked". They met when he responded to a craigslist ad she had posted back in May looking for old doors, barn wood, etc. for her business. He was tearing down a barn on his property and responded to the ad.
He asked if she needed it cut to size and she had responded no, her husband could take care of that. By late June, she was asking him to cut it, saying we were separated (a lie I found about only recently). The texting / calling didnt pick up until right before the 4th. On the 6th I had handed her pre filled out paperwork to review. She disappeared for two days and when she did come back she had the paperwork sticking out of her purse.
Now, over the past few weeks she's been jumping back into my bed talking alternately about working on things then flip a switch she wants to divorce this marriage has been / is smothering her.
Personally, I'm done with the emotional abuse and her selfish behavior, the entitlement, the lying, the cheating, etc. and am looking forward to reclaiming my life in the next few weeks when she moves into the new place I just went into escrow on. But a sick twisted part of me knows that if she's been stringing me along, then she's doing the same shit to him. Would love to burst her bubble and let her wallow in her own shit alone for once.
Figured I'd post those thoughts here and get hit with a 2x4 rather than stir that drama llama from a nap though. Let'em figure her bullshit out on his own.