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User Topic: A year later
neverdidithink
♀ 40568
Member # 40568
Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dday was 8/13/2013. It was a Sunday night. We had just gotten home from a family vacation with all 4 kids. I had a business trip starting the next day. I flew to corporate HQ in a daze. Trying to present my 5 year strategy plan coherently was one of the hardest things I've ever done. My head was spinning, I hadn't slept at all. I had no confidence in myself.

Today, one week before the first anniversary of Dday, I'm staying in the same hotel visiting the same office.

And I didn't think about any of this until this morning. I wasn't in knots leading up to the trip, I didn't choose another hotel thinking about the very difficult conversations WH and I had while I was here.

For those early in the journey: It does get better.


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


Posts: 348 | Registered: Sep 2013
Skan
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Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5238 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
LosferWords
♂ 30369
Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It does get better, with time and healing. Thank you so much for sharing the positive story!


Why don't you just say it? I'm the worst toy-maker in the world. I'm a Cotton-Headed Ninnymuggins!

Posts: 8276 | Registered: Dec 2010
bionicgal
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Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 7:23 AM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is great to hear!


me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 2247 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
HardenMyHeart
♂ 15902
Member # 15902
Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


Posts: 5758 | Registered: Aug 2007
neverdidithink
♀ 40568
Member # 40568
Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH was super attentive before I left and it had me a little concerned. In hindsight, I realize that while the "significance" of this trip was not on my mind, he was well aware of it.

I'll call that progress on both sides.


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


Posts: 348 | Registered: Sep 2013
AFrayedKnot
♂ 36622
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BS 40
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2692 | Registered: Aug 2012
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