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User Topic: First wedding anniversary since DDay
♀ 43864
Member # 43864
Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our 39th wedding anniversary is Saturday, and I feel mostly numb about it. My emotions are so mixed. At times, I'd like to acknowledge it. Other times, it's just another day of trying to heal from the nightmare my WH brought into our lives. Does anyone have any similar experience?

Married nearly 40 yrs
Me: 61 yrs old, always faithful
WS: 64 yrs old, 2 ONS 1978, EA (he says) In 2013

DDays: 12/11/13, 12/18/13, 12/27/13 (he's big on TT)
Also discovered he cheats with 2 women while we were engaged, 40 years after the fact.

Posts: 48 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: SC
♀ 41193
Member # 41193
Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I just posted about this in the third week of July. I called WH while I was out of town and said, "We have nothing to celebrate, so no cards, no gifts."

Others said that they "changed" celebration dates, but I think that's hard too. We were so happy on that date.

Hell, I've subtracted two years off our marriage....making my son 'illegitimate' - not really, I HATE that term!

Sorry you are going through this.

Me: 58
Him: 65
Married: 21 years (well, we'll say 19 now!).
One son: 19, 2 adult stepdaughters
DDay: Oct. 14, 2013
18 month EA/PA with COW
Dday #2: 4/16/14 - took it underground for 5 months.
Haven't decided on outcome.

Posts: 591 | Registered: Nov 2013
♂ 43976
Member # 43976
Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm sorry you feel that way, it sucks! I am feeling the same as my 2nd anniversary after the last DD is coming up. I was hopeful last year, this year I don't even want to think about it.

ME: 55 Madhatter, 1 short term PA (kissing only)
WW: 52 Madhatter, 25 year PA (off and on, same OM) 7 year EA, first boyfriend
Married: 33 years, 1981
My DD#1 6/1988, DD#2,3,4,5 1/30/2013
Her DD 3/2013

Posts: 44 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Ohio
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