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OakStreet posted 8/6/2014 19:58 PM

Yesterday was a bad day when my DS (19) and my step-daughter found out about their dad's affair.

It was a LONG day, with discussion with son at 7 am, step-daughter later that morning and telling WH during our first/resumed MC session at 4 pm.

Dealing with ALL those emotions was sad and exhausting.

This morning, my mother called to tell me my brother was dead. Suicide. This is the third of five children she has buried.

My brother is at peace. He has been in pain for a long time. I am just so sad for his two sons, 31 and 19. And for my poor mother.

My son is devastated for his cousin. But he came home and told his dad, "If I hadn't talked to (sister) this evening, who calmed me down, my foot would be in your ass."

Just too much on my plate.....and thanks in advance for your wishes.

CheaterMagnet posted 8/6/2014 20:01 PM


Sending you and your whole family peace and strength. I really have no words and I cannot fathom your pain. Please lean on us here anytime.

Althea posted 8/6/2014 20:08 PM


I have been at that place of feeling like you are down and out and just being kicked around by life. Just have faith things will get better (they will) and keep putting one foot in front of the other. Try to find something beautiful each day just to remind yourself that beauty and happiness is still out there.

nekorb posted 8/6/2014 20:17 PM


I am so, so sorry at the loss of your brother, and everything else that is going on.

Sometimes it seems too much to bear, but you will make it. Baby steps.

jendo posted 8/6/2014 20:20 PM

I"m so sorry. That is a lot...

kernel posted 8/6/2014 20:48 PM

((OakStreet and family)) Peace and strength to you and yours.

Thinkingtoomuch posted 8/6/2014 22:05 PM

You're in my thoughts and prayers. So sorry about the loss of your brother.

caregiver9000 posted 8/6/2014 22:15 PM

sympathies and (((hugs)))

solus sto posted 8/6/2014 22:25 PM

Oh (((Oak Street)))) I am so, so very sorry.

Jrazz posted 8/6/2014 22:26 PM

OMG OakStreet I'm just so sorry. Exhausting has to be an understatement.

We are here for you. Sending hugs and strength.


BtraydWife posted 8/7/2014 00:39 AM

I'm so sorry. That is a lot for anyone.

momentintime posted 8/7/2014 00:44 AM

I am sorry for you loss. Lean on us, we can carry you for awhile until you can get your bearings again. Drink lots of water, and remember to eat something, anything you can keep down. It all takes time, and that is just painful.

Arden posted 8/7/2014 01:45 AM

I'm so, so sorry. This must seem so overwhelming. Big hugs to you and your family. Take care of yourself. All you need is one step at a time.

WillThrive posted 8/7/2014 06:39 AM

Hugs and prayers. That is a lot to be facing all at once.

Chefj9 posted 8/7/2014 06:40 AM

I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. I lost my youngest brother to suicide when he was just 14. 20+ years later and his passing and the questions about it all are still with me. My heart beaks for your mother. My mom has never been the same and I don't expect her to be. Lots of prayers for you and your family. You are dealing with so much. Try and remember to nurture yourself through all this. Drink lots of water, eat and rest when you can.

JerseyCowgirl posted 8/7/2014 06:46 AM

Oh my certainly did not need this added to your burdens. Please take extra good care of yourself right now & know we here are all sending our support & love to you right now.

authenticnow posted 8/7/2014 07:06 AM


itainteasy posted 8/7/2014 07:42 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss.

OakStreet posted 8/7/2014 07:47 AM

Thank you everyone!

Your support means so much.

Things are so complicated - we don't know yet when the service for my brother will be. And we have to get my fragile mother to Florida. She is a strong woman, but jeez, can she catch a break?

My brother was 55. My mother watched her oldest son suffer through pancreatic cancer in 2005 and her middle daughter suffer through vulvar cancer in 2010. Her two surviving daughters are both going through infidelity issues.

But we will get through this! The hugs, thoughts and prayers are appreciated. I also have my very dear friends (40+ years) supporting me.

My brother was a very good man. He raised two sons by himself and was active in volunteering for organizations that dealt with disabilities.
He will be greatly missed.

But he is no longer in pain.

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